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Wednesday, October 12, 2016

the couch

I admit I snore.  I admit I don't know when I'm snoring when I'm asleep, but I do know I snore.  Have you ever awakened yourself because of your snoring? Yep, that's me.

I admit hubby snores. When we had the corgi, he snored too. Son used to comment he would come home late at night and walk down the hall to the bedrooms and hear 3 distinct snorers.

Fact of life.

We snore.

Most nights I can "endure" hubby's snoring. Most nights he can't endure my snoring. The secret for him is getting to sleep before I start snoring. The secret for me is to be asleep soundly before he starts snoring.

We have a backup plan. The couch in the den. It is somewhat comfortable but it is the farthest room from the bedroom, i.e., less noisy snoring.

I wake up in the middle of the night and look over and hubby is not in bed. I'm thinking "my snoring" which is usually confirmed the next morning. Some rare days he'll have trouble sleeping for other reasons.

He'll wake up in the middle of the night and look over and sure enough I'm not in bed and he'll think "snoring" which is confirmed more than not in the morning, though sometimes insomnia will get the best of me and I'll just give up and go to the couch rather than toss and turn in bed and disrupt him.

I wonder what would happen if we ever fought over the couch, i.e., we both arrived at the conclusion we needed out of the bed at the same time. Thankfully there is a love seat and couch out there. It could work.

I sleep on the couch, albeit not the most restful of sleep. I wake up a bit, check the time and my tablet and then try to fall back to sleep. Some nights I'm successful, other nights I'm not.

I often wonder why babies and young children resist a nap. Wouldn't  you love to have the opportunity to take a 2 hour nap in the middle of the day and not have to worry about responsibilities? I know I would. Work would frown on it though.

I would take it in a heartbeat.

One day we'll have to replace the couch. It has seen better days.

But now it is a safe comfort in the middle of a sleepless snore filled night.

And are you a snorer?

Its okay, confess it if you are.

You are among friends.

No one will judge.

You'll be welcomed either way.

Even if you wake me up with your snoring.


38 comments:

Sheena-kay Graham said...

I sleep alone so any snores are not going to bother anyone else. My father has horrible snoring. Even though he's in a different room my mother has had to get up and tell him to roll on his side so she can sleep. Yup, his is that bad. The whole house hears it. If I'm around then I'll gently nudge him before she gets up. She does not do waking delicately. Or much else. Love you mom! Glad you and your husband work things out with your sleeping patterns.

Sally said...

Ha, ha this made me laugh. Apparently I snore! I've always denied it but lately I have woken myself up with my own snoring.

My first husband was a very loud snorer and it didn't bother me, I had to accept it as there wasn't the option of sleeping anywhere else.

My current husband hardly snores (or I don't hear him) and when I wake him with my snoring (apparently) he nudges me so that I move and stop snoring.

Jo said...

If you, or anyone else, are snoring that badly, it could mean you have sleep apnea. This is a very serious condition and you should get it checked out. If you do have it you will have to use a CPAP machine which does give you a decent night's rest and stops you snoring. They take a bit of getting used to, but do make a heck of a difference in how you feel and you won't be wishing you could have a nap. I have had a CPAP machine for a number of years now.

Bijoux said...

I have only taken a nap when I've been really sick. I'm not much of a sleeper to begin with, so even though I'm sure I snore at times, my husband doesn't complain because there's such a short window when we are both sleeping.

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

I do snore and my snores have waken me up during the night a time or two. My DDH would snore too, but all I had to do was get him to roll over on his side and he'd stop. Now I'm here alone so it doesn't matter. I do take naps, usually one a day but sometimes two. That never hampers my nighttime sleep though. With it getting dark so early I'm ready for bed at 8 but try to stay up till nine. Come winter I'll be hibernating like a bear. Glad you have your couch. A good nights sleep is worth it's weight in gold.

Pat Hatt said...

Cassie snores a bit here and there. The cat once in a blue moon. And me, never have. I think it's because I always sleep with a fan going so the air is moving, at least that's my theory. My grandmother snores like a freight train though lol

Maria Zannini said...

The same thing happens at our house, but one or the other takes the guest bedroom.

Sometimes (when I don't want to leave my comfy bed) I sleep at the foot of the bed away from him. I still hear him, but it's less annoying.

Intense Guy said...

I know I snore - when I actually get some sleep!

joeh said...

WE both snore but apparently not enough to keep either of us awake. A steady snore will not inhibit sleep. By brother snored with no pattern, he kept you guessing and it kept you awake, sometimes even from another room.

Mac n' Janet said...

I'm a snorer, but my husband sleeps with headphones for his MP3 player because he likes soothing sounds.He's a very mild snorer and it doesn't bother me at all. And yes I've woken myself up snoring. Use to grind my teeth and that would wake me up too and give me a headache, finally had my teeth realigned.

Joanne said...

oh yes. Snort and snore. My husband does too. I'm usually the first to fall asleep so I win!

Crystal Collier said...

I'm imagining you would have to be sure you have a very comfortable couch in your house. I'm not a snorer, thankfully. The hubby is. After 17 years, I'm used to it, but there are the occasions when there's an issue. Very rare.

Big Mark 243 said...

...well I know that I am a snorer..! I occasionally have woken myself up from my snoring... but I have to wonder how often did either you or hubby wake up from snoring only to find that the other has came out to join you..?

Mevely317 said...

You're so funny, Betty!

I don't THINK(?) I snore. Tom's either far too polite to tell me, or too hard-of-hearing. I don't know if the noises he makes are snores or sleep apnea (?) coughing/choking. More often than not I'll wake up at 2 or 3 and hear him out on the couch.

PS - Hey, some of my best sleep's happened while on couches! I remember it always felt like a treat when, on the weekends, my mother would let me stay on the couch.

Liz A. said...

Yeah, I snore, but I sleep alone so no one notices. I don't think both of you would need the couch at the same time. If you both woke up at the same time, you'd both be awake. Then you could duel for the bed...

DMS said...

I am glad you have such a good solution! I do snore (though I don't think every night). I have woken myself up once or twice with a snore- which made me start laughing. :)
~Jess

Megan Whitson Lee said...

My husband is a snorer and so am I. We take turns elbowing each other during the night. He can sleep through my snoring mostly, but I cannot sleep through his.

Plowing Through Life (Martha) said...

HAHAHA! Your posts are always fun. I don't snore regularly; usually when I'm very tired. My husband, on the other hand, is a regular snorer. I have a couch that I sneak to when his snoring keeps me awake. It is far away from the bedroom and I sleep like a baby on it...until my cats start meowing to be fed or petted or talked to...doesn't matter if it's three in the morning! LOL... But for the past little while, hubby hasn't been snoring as much as before. The only thing that's changed is that we bought new, really good quality pillows and we suspect that it has helped.

Birgit said...

I snore galore according to my hubby. He also snores but I can sleep through most things. My hubby wears ear plugs which helps. I never thought I snored but I do and have woken up by my snoring.

Saleslady371 said...

Yep. Tom and I are guilty on both accounts. He has a loud C-pap machine too but I'm a sleeper and it's ok. One of the greatest benefits of our retirement is the afternoon nap. Tom only became fond of it since his need for oxygen and now he tires easily so he takes a nap with me. So refreshing.

Denise said...

I am not a snorer, but I have traveled with folks who are. One insisted she had not slept all night and I asked her who was snoring if not her. As for naps, there are times when I am more likely to fall asleep in the lounge than my grandson is. He'll poke at me to wake me up. Until I convince we ARE taking a nap, lol.

Becky Sutherland said...

I am a snorer and I have mild sleep apnea. My best sleeping is in the recliner.

Melanie said...

Husband is a LOUD snorer. It's a rare occasion that I sleep all night in our bed. I either move to the couch or crawl in bed with one of the kids to get away from the noise. :(

Victoria Zigler said...

I snore.

Hubby snores (and grinds his teeth in his sleep).

When we still had Kero, he used to snore.

I don't think hubby wakes me with his snoring, but sometimes if I'm having a bad night, I'll find hubby's snoring irritating (though not quite as much as his tooth grinding) and either give up and get up, or go sleep on the couch (ours is comfy too). Luckily, since my only job is my writing, and my hours are super flexible, I can just sleep whenever, other than the rare times when I have an appointment somewhere. So if I need a nap, I have one. If that means I'm sleeping in the day and up working in the night, so be it.

I'm not sure if I wake myself up with my snoring... I don't remember having done so, but it's certainly possible, since I'm told it's pretty bad sometimes. I know it doesn't bother hubby though, and certainly doesn't wake him. He's commented that it's really bad at times, but he doesn't care since he's one of those lucky people who falls asleep almost immediately when he goes to bed, and can sleep through just about anything. I swear the house could fall down around him and he'd sleep through it.

Tori

Juli G said...

Yup. I drool too. :)

As I type this, hubs is snoring in the bedroom. I can hear him through the wall. Now that I'm thinking about it, this couch is pretty comfy...

Debby@Just Breathe said...

No I have never been woken up with my snoring. I use to snore but seldom do anymore. Mark does snore but not all the time. I will go into my office and turn on a movie I've seen dozens of times, close my eyes and fall asleep! It's nice to have a back up plan. Enjoy your weekend.

Paula Kaye said...

I have become a snorer in my later years. Richard used to snore terribly loud! I hated it. Often poked him to turn on his side. In his later years he didn't snore as much. Doctor thought it was because he lost a lot of weight and his neck wasn't so fat. I don't know if that was the reason or not. I'd give anything to complain about him snoring one last time!!!

Lowcarb team member said...

... we both snore, but a nudge or a friendly poke in the side seems to stop it!

All the best Jan

Blue Grumpster said...

Let's see... Have I ever awakened myself because of my snoring? Um..... more often than not. Some would as far as to call me Blue Snore. That's not a compliment, now is it?

Hi betty!

Danielle L Zecher said...

I don't usually snore, except when I have a cold, sinus issues, etc. Then it's really bad. Hubby has sleep apnea, so snores terribly if he doesn't use his machine. Our house isn't big enough for me to get away from the snoring if he falls asleep without it. Have you considered getting checked for sleep apnea? Nick says he feels so much better now that he has the c-pap machine. And I definitely sleep better. :-)

Bobbi and Gracie said...

When Gary first told me I snored, I was in denial. No way! I fought that for the longest time until I finally decided to believe him. Turns out he is a snorer too and so is Gracie. So yep, we are a family of snorers. We have the same system here. A comfy couch for she or he who is unable to sleep for whatever reason. I know a lot of 'older' people (ok, maybe my age older) who actually have separate bedrooms in order to get a good night's sleep. We are not there yet and it is doubtful that we will ever be, as long as there is a couch to go to.

yaya said...

I do snore and sleeping on my side sometimes helps. Hubby does not..usually. The "go to" for him? The spare bedrooms..we have 3 so he has many choices, poor guy! I did do a sleep study and it says I do get good sleep so I guess I must wake myself up but fall back to sleep quickly!

Arlee Bird said...

My wife snores. I know because I've heard her snore. She says that I snore too, but I don't believe her since I've never heard myself snore. I think she's just saying it to get back at me for saying she snores.

Neither of us has opted for a spare bedroom or couch retreat. Not yet.

Arlee Bird
Tossing It Out

Nick Wilford said...

I'm definitely a snorer and do have a bit of a guilt complex about it, especially if my wife has to get up early the next morning. The couch is a frequent second bed for me! I do know my wife snores, but I've only heard it if she has a nap during the day. I'm one of those people who would sleep through an earthquake.

Munir said...

Ninety percent of the time I sleep on the living room chair as well because of my asthma. I am sure I snore when I am breathing ok. LOL

Christy said...

Chad snores, he has sleep apnea, and has a CPAP machine, which has saved his life literally in many ways, including from me suffocating him! I kid, maybe!
I do hope you will both have sleep studies done.

Christy said...

Chad snores, he has sleep apnea, and has a CPAP machine, which has saved his life literally in many ways, including from me suffocating him! I kid, maybe!
I do hope you will both have sleep studies done.

Elizabeth said...

I do not snore, but I have woken myself up talking in a dream. I had fallen asleep on the couch and suddenly rose up saying something random and gave my brother a good scare, lol.