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Monday, September 19, 2016

When I Realized I am Old

I love to read.  There were periods in my life when I read less, periods when I read more.  There were times I could not put the book down even if it meant I would be tired the next day. If you are a reader, you know exactly what I mean.

Nowadays, I belong to several ebook sites that send daily emails of reduced ebooks for sale or even free books. I try to get as many free books as I can, but there are those occasional (okay frequent) books that get my attention and I end up purchasing them. Thankfully they mostly cost $2.00 and change so that's not too bad. Sometimes I put a moratorium on books "no more books until I read all I have on my tablet" and then someone does a review of a book that looks fascinating and then, of course, you know the rest of that story.

I just a few days ago finished a book In the Quiet by Eliza Henry Jones. It is based in Australia and usually books out of the country are not my usual reading, but this sounded like an interesting plot so I purchased it. The story is written in first person with the person narrating who is dead, but she sees her family, friends, etc., coping with her dead over a period of time, plus she relates incidents from her past in the book.  It was well written and I enjoyed it a lot.  Thought provoking at times too.

What got me though at the end of the book it had the usual credits and acknowledgements that books do and had a little bit about the author.  She was born in 1990. That made her as of this year (whenever her birthday) 26 years old. Son was born in 1989.

She wrote this really well written book sometime before she was 26 years old (book published in 2015). Whether she self published or not, she got a book published in her 20's. I don't know statistics, but I wonder how often that occurs.

And that's when I realized how old I am.

I don't really know the ages of some of the authors I read. I know there are some that are older than me like Danielle Steele (don't judge me, she's a quick easy read and as a mom with young kids you could read her books and still keep an eye on your toddler, preschooler, etc., and still keep up with the plot) and Elizabeth Berg and Anna Quindlen.

How did I get old so quick?

Do you wonder that too?

Have you read a good book lately? (I'm almost afraid to ask that question because it might be one more that I'll have to add to my ever growing "to be read" stack.")

42 comments:

Ann Bennett said...

Time sure does slip though quickly. However we are lucky to be older. Many don't get older. However, I've got a few years on you.
I do admire one so young having a good book written.

Plowing Through Life (Martha) said...

You are singing my song, Betty, about reading. I have so many books waiting to be read that I shouldn't even think about picking up any more. Then I run across a recommendation and off I go in search for that. I won't recommend too many books, so I don't encourage you to spiral out of control...lol...but if you haven't read 'The Light Between Oceans' by M. L. Stedman, try it. I really enjoyed it. And it has been made into a movie! And maybe one more? LOL... 'Me Before You' by Jojo Moyes, which is also a movie. Okay, I'll stop there!

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

I so remember the time I first felt old. In my mid 40's I went to a new doctor for a check up and he looked so young I felt old. But in comparison to then and now, I know I'm old. Like you I read a lot and always have. I do look for the free books anymore and don't buy many. Most of the authors are new ones to me but many are very good.

Bijoux said...

I love to read, but I still just go to the library because I like real books I can hold! LOL. Just finished 'The Secret Life of Violet Grant.! For once, I was surprised by an ending,

I felt old when I took middle child to a new doctor and figured out that she was only two years older than my oldest daughter (by looking at diplomas on the walk). Ugh.

Maria Zannini said...

I'm reminded daily that I'm old when I see ads or commercial and they're targeting the 20-somethings.

It makes me snicker because they're a little smug about being the darlings, not realizing it's only temporary. I know someday they'll be where I am now, and they'll be snickering at the next generation.

Susan Gourley/Kelley said...

I feel like I could have written what you said. Where did the years go? Will I ever have time to read all the books I want to? Why didn't I start writing when I was younger? Was it because I was chasing after 4 little ones?

Pat Hatt said...

Had my first one out at 26, wrote before that but they were utter crap haha age does sneak up on us all though. Better to age and feel old though, at least in most cases, than be 6 ft under.

Joanne said...

I know what you mean. Sigh

Liz A. said...

I get smacked in the face by how young everyone else is all the time. But considering what my SIL just went through (she's back home now; she managed to survive the treatment--her odds of doing so was 11%), I have nothing to complain about.

I won't add to your TBR pile. I found a free book that was first in a series. The series was in a box set (like 5 books), so I bought that. I'm working my way through it. Should be a while.

Linda said...

I realized I was getting old when the President was younger than me! My book reading goes in streaks, know what you mean about- can't put book down. I'm searching for a good book on bi-polar to better understand a relative.

Chatty Crone said...

Haha - I don;t feel old until I look in the mirror and then I feel old! You are not old girl.

jack69 said...

I know the feeling about the e-books. YES I read. and it is great someone has a published book in their 20's. I did not get interested in books until my late 50's. Now I have read thousands. I am reading Grisham's Sycamore Row. Love Grisham.

You have a great knack of reviewing or making a book report. YOu are able to be concise and to the point, a good attribute (and talent, I'm amazed you do not write!, I mean to publish.)

jack69 said...

PS: Wait, wait. When you get old YOU WILL KNOW IT, KID! lol

Paula Kaye said...

Sounds like another good book Betty! Hopefully we will have too many books on our e-readers to ever have to worry about what to read next! I feel old when I sit in a room with parents of Darian and Harley's friends!!

Sharon said...

I'm old?!

Yes, I was just saying the other day that I can't believe I'm already 62! Where did the time go?? Sometimes I feel every one of those 62 years, and other times I still feel pretty good. However, looking in the mirror is quite the reality check...ahem.

I just recently read the latest in a mystery/detective series that I love. It was called "A Great Reckoning" by Louise Penny It was so, so good. I highly recommend this series (first book, "Still Life"), as the characters are quirky and interesting, the settings are wonderful, and the main character, Inspector Gamache is fascinating. Also, the mysteries themselves always keep me guessing, and that's hard to do.

Age is mind over matter - if you don't mind, it doesn't matter!!

xo

Birgit said...

I totally understand because in my heart I feel like I am 30 (I won't mention my body:)) but I have clients now who are in their 20's and I speak to them like I'm their mom which frightens me...hahahahaa.

Sheena-kay Graham said...

My brother was born in 89 as well. I'm 31, born 84. Yes there are a couple of authors who first published in their twenties including Veronica Roth. A couple lucky teens too. I read mostly YA and enjoying Danielle Paige's latest work. No judgement from me. I read Danielle Steel once or twice in my teens. Those books can pull you in. Not everything read needs to be the next literary classic. To help ease the reading budget you can follow book events and enter a couple giveaways. I was so glad last weekend when I won a $10 Amazon Gift Card. Ebooks abound. Like a musician once said during an interview while I was watching CBS Sunday Morning (been watching that for years so for those who think that show is only for parents and the elderly...sit down) 'If you're not getting older, you're dead'. So if you want to live, you need to keep having birthdays. Simple as that.

Megan Whitson Lee said...

So I sympathize with you because I have Kindle FULL of books that I need to read. I keep telling myself I will not purchase more until I've read them...blah, blah, blah. Second, I LOVE Australia and books set there, so I will check out this twenty-six-year-old's book. Thanks for recommending!

Victoria Zigler said...

I know the feeling about books. When possible, I take advantage of opportunities to get books I want for free or discounted prices, but sometimes you just really want that book... Even if there are a stack of them waiting on your eReader for you to get a chance to read them. I read a lot, but I still have this problem.

I'm not yet at the point where I could be considered old, but I still feel it sometimes. Especially times like when I realize someone I used to help care for when she was a tiny baby is about to turn 18, and my cute little nephew who I remember playing games with when he was hardly out of diapers will be 18 a few months later!

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Jo said...

I don't think you really know what old is yet Betty. I think I can give you quite a few years LOL. I know what you mean about free or discounted books. My kindle is full of them and I don't think I will ever get through them all. I too tell myself no more but then a favourite author publishes something and back I am buying it.

Mevely317 said...

Every day, m'friend. Every day!

This resonated with me on so many levels. For instance, I've always felt a bit guilty, not really getting 'into' prose authored by an English author. I even get weirded-out by the sight of too-many unread books on my tablet ... like they're silently chiding me.

But, at this stage of my life, I figure there's little time to finish reading something I'm not particularly enjoying just because it was a good deal. It takes a LOT to jar me away from my comfort zone, but I did just that last month and was SO pleasantly surprised: "The One-in-a-Million Boy" (Paula reviewed) and "Hot Flashes and Cold Lemonade" by fellow blogger, Susan Flett Swiderski. I know, the second one sounds like a chick flick (lol) but quoting from another reviewer: "It's more like a classic drama which gives a lesson to its readers."

Sorry, I didn't mean to prattle on so! Great post, Betty.

Jerralea said...

Oh my! I understand this so well. I used to read a book a day, or maybe an average of 4-5 a week. Lately, the season I'm in, it will take me a couple of weeks to read ONE! I'm really sad about that, and something must be done to clear my schedule.

I've already downloaded a ton of free books so I have a big TBR list. I shouldn't add to your TBR list BUT my two faves right now that are coming out soon is All the Pretty Things by Edie Rudder Wadsworth and Rhythms of Rest by Shelly Miller. I highly highly recommend them.

Bobbi and Gracie said...

This looks like a good read.. I will check it out to see if it is something I am interested in. Yes, Betty.. I am feeling older every single day I'm alive. Ugh. And for similar reasons... Right now I am reading The Woman In Cabin 10. I'm almost finished. It started out good but became repetitive in descriptions and such after a time. Now, towards the end.. I just want to finish it already and get on to the next. It has gone south. Thanks for sharing about this book... I will go soon and check it out..

Lowcarb team member said...

Time never stands still ...
I try not to think about age, I just do my best to enjoy every day

All the best Jan

Mary Degli Esposti said...

Quindlen is wonderful, but I didn't light up on Berg as so many others have. I don't nec. feel I got old so quick, but I do sometimes wonder how I racked up 51 years of life without getting all that much smarter. I can read a book by a 30 year old who seems like she was born knowing more than I do now.

yaya said...

I'm a reader also and yes I've read some good ones but I won't mention any here to save you from yourself! Ha! I'm old too. In fact I decided I was past the date of "dying young and leaving a good looking corpse"..yep, I'm that old!

Elizabeth said...

I'm the same with e-books and even a few paperbacks I pick up at library sales or the dollar store. I have this never-ending TBR list and when I allow myself the time, I can really get into reading.

As for age, I'm started seeing it when I entered my 30s. All of a sudden many new actors and popular youtubers and even a few youth pastors I met at a conference are younger than me! I have to admit, I'm a little jealous, because I feel less accomplished than those authors, church leaders, etc. who have made a name for themselves and here I am still trying to figure myself out, lol.

Denise said...

I am a voracious reader. I have four library books sitting here right now, enough for a week. One was recommended by a fellow blogger, but I find it boring, so I will not finish it. Thank goodness that we have such a fabulous nationally recognized library in my community or I would go broke, lol.

Ruth said...

I have a medical journal that I have been reading a lot lately. I haven't read much, been busy.
I graduated high school in 1990. My husband feels old. I do not. Maybe I should when my body is going to crap. But, I just don't.

IntenseGuy said...

I felt old when they announced it was the 50th anniversary of the original Star Trek TV show. One I watched in PJ's as a very young boy!

Nick Wilford said...

The TBR stack is always growing for me too! I know a lot of writers younger than me. Guess I'm not that young.

netablogs said...

In the Quiet sounds like a great read-- I'll have to check it out at my library. As if I need another book on my 'to read' list ;)
I enjoyed The Light Between Oceans. Read the book and watched the movie. Both good, although I enjoyed the book more.

Juli G said...

Lately it's less about how I got so old as it is how did I get this many aches and pains?

Honestly... I make noise all the time getting up, bending down, rolling over in bed...sometimes I'm not even really hurting. I just get up and groan.

Debby@Just Breathe said...

I have bought so many books for my Kindle app. on my phone and computer. I of course not much of a reader but I keep thinking I will read them someday :) I get many of them free and I try to stick to the 99 cent ones or like you said around $2.00. Danielle Steele is who I started with, her books are great. No good book recently, I'm reading a book on "How to beat your a-fib."

What I know is that when I turned 60 I was in shock. No other year ever bothered me but I couldn't figure out what happened between 30 and 60!!!

baili said...

because of my reading habits i got my eyes problem that is what they say who are around me i also have some books waiting for my read but busy routine of life and specially helping kids in their studies grabs my spare time ,

i am forty plus and feeling like sixty as there is so much calling me and i am stuck into daily chores which will end with the last breath surely

DMS said...

It is amazing the things that will make us stop and think about our age. For me it is usually when I find out something like what you shared (the age of someone). I recently went to a celebration for a friend and realized I was older than everyone else in attendance by at least 13 years. One person was 21 years younger than me- and we were all adults! I am only in my 40s, but I certainly felt old that day because of the comparison of ages. :)

Usually we are only as old as we think we are. :)
~Jess

Sunni said...

My grandmother used to tell us age is only a number and I'm sticking with that. But I knew I was old when all of a sudden I was old enough to sign up for Medicare. How did that happen and where did all those years go? I find I have more aches and pains too as I get older and it's easier to hurt yourself doing things you really shouldn't be doing anymore. My mind always thinks I can.

As far as reading, I love to do that and try to read at least 50 books a year but with working it's hard to do because there are chores waiting for me when I get home from work. I have tons of free books on my kindle for PC but haven't read them yet. I prefer to hold a real book in my hands and smell the paper. The Outlander series by Diana Gabaldan are excellent books. I highly recommend them. They're full of action and real page turners. The genre is historical romance, but they are also time travel novels.

Currently, I'm reading a first person novel, "The Girl on the Train" by Paula Hawkins. It's rather an odd book and not sure I would read it again but I'm almost to the end now and will write a review for it on my blog in a couple of weeks. I'm writing a mystery series right now (in first person). I'm in the editing stage, so am trying to read as much first person as I can because I think I have too many people telling my story, so this is helping me to see how others have laid out their books.

Stephanie said...

This sounds like such an interesting read. I've just vowed to myself to make more time for books, perhaps I'll start with this one!

Kat said...

Ugh. Yes. I've had those moments. My husband had a memorable moment like that. He was outside cutting the grass at our old house, which was three blocks from the local high school. A high school kid was walking home from school and struck up a short conversation with my husband. My husband asked if he was walking home from school. The kid said "yes". My husband informed the kid that he went to that high school as well and graduated in 1989. The kid's eyes bulged and he said, "That's the year I was BORN!" Ugh.

I've read so many good books lately I don't know where to begin. Perhaps I should write a blog post about it and share the goods. :)

The Brown Recluse (TBR) said...

I rarely read...but I finished books before, usually nothing I SHOULD have been reading... lol

Yeah. How DID I get so old? I mean I knew it was going to happen, just not this fast (as my dearly departed uncle used to say).

I'm a little jealous of the 26 year old. The first time I said I was going to write a book, I was in the 7th grade. Ain't done it yet. :(

Veronica Lee said...

I received a book I won in a giveaway contest a couple of weeks back but just can't find the time to read it. I feel old when I can't read the ingredients on cereal boxes without my granny glasses!

Liuba said...

I think we don't need to pay to much attention to our age, off and I am not telling you because I am only 28 years old. All the stages are part of our lives and we should enjoy, live and do good things for others.