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a bench with a view

Saturday, July 9, 2016

I just can't fathom

I just can't fathom the events from this past week in Louisiana, Minnesota, and now Dallas. What I can do is pray and that is what I will do.  Its a scary world out there.  You honestly don't know if when you kiss your spouse goodbye at the beginning of their day will you kiss them hello at the end of it. 

This little guy is biracial.  Where will he align in the days to come as he grows? Will he feel he has to align with one group or another?  Will he and others be bridges that bring back the gaps together? 

My DIL is worried about her brother and friends who are people of color. I'm worried about law enforcement people who put their lives in danger every day, regardless of their nationality or ethnicity. 

Can we meet in the middle? I know we can because we love each other and have a common goal and cause in being the best we can to help raise this little one in the days ahead.  



Maybe we should just be like Ducky. He doesn't care really what color anyone is. He just gladly floats around the water and enjoys a waterfall now and then. Worse thing that happens to him is when the pump goes off and he is stuck in a particular part of the pool until the wind stirs him a bit.



All I know is, I will pray, pray, pray, pray, and then more pray for the events that have transpired this week and for comfort and for healing and for peace that transcends understanding.

And then after that, I'll start praying again.

Join me if you are one to pray.

Treat others kindly as you would want to be treated.

And be careful out there. Advice I always gave son when he lived at home. Its a jungle out there.

Just be careful. I love you all even the yellow duck.

46 comments:

TARYTERRE said...

You are so right... we are not promised tomorrow. We have to make every moment count. Like you, I believe in the power of prayer. I hope that dear sweet little one you cherish grows up in a better world. Unfortunately right now in this country there is a terrible divide and folks CIVIL RIGHTS are being violated by the very people that are being paid to protect them. Putting your life on the line as a cop, doesn't give you a license to kill or abuse your authority. And unfortunately that is what is happening more and more. I will join you in praying for HEALING and for peace that transcends all this darkness. Here's hoping the light of day dawns on a new path to understanding. Love you and that rubber duckie too.

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Prayer is a powerful tool and you know I do pray daily for all especially our military and law enforcement. I can't do much but that I can do.

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lyndagrace said...

Oh, Betty, this is a powerful post. The photo of your grandson and the sentiment you expressed affected me on a deep emotional level.
At what point do we learn to hate, distrust, become afraid? Certainly, your little guy doesn't know anything about any of it.
I understand how you feel. I am overwhelmed by the complexity of the situation and so it seems are the ones who are in charge.
I believe it has to start with letting the young ones do what comes naturally to them. Love not hate.

Plowing Through Life (Martha) said...

Very thoughtful post, Betty. For me there is only one race: the human one. It is something we need to keep repeating to ourselves and something we must teach our children. We are all one and the same. And none of us are taught to hate or be divisive. It is something we learn.

Ann Bennett said...

The events of the past two years is quite a shock. You reel from what is in the news and then go into town and everything is normal. Praying is always useful. As bad as this news is, I think positive change will happen.

It's a shame all this has to happen for many of us to realize the hidden barriers people of color face. I've always felt the civil rights act that apply to only former slave holding states in the South should be extended throughout the country. It does change how people deal with one another.

Pat Hatt said...

Crazy it is. Can't say I get such a mindset so many people have with such hate. But then they learned it somewhere. Seems to be a never ending cycle that doesn't want to break.

OB said...

Great post,.... I would like to see us as a nation, lose the labels. Whether you call me white or I call you black,... African-American, Asian-American, Mexican-American,... when we can,... lose the labels and just be Americans. We have divided ourselves with labels. I know you can't drop them in all instances but next time you see a man or a woman,... look at them as a person, as an American.

Blue Grumpster said...

I'm biracial and all I can say is this boils down to ignorance, despair and intolerance.

Joanne said...

Well written post. Nothing to add. We do have to all get along and include the yellow ducks!

Joanne Noragon said...

How can this end? It's all about personal decisions. I pulled into the yard at the old house today and saw my brother-in-law had his beautiful new flag at half staff. I burst into tears, and sobbed my frustration out to my granddaughters. Every one of us is responsible.

Mevely317 said...

I love this message, Betty.

Pretty sure both your sweet boy and his ducky are examples of what the good Lord had in mind when He created us. I'm not proud of my initial reaction Thursday night (anger), when what I should have been doing was dropping to my knees. So weary!
Thank you for the invitation to prayer. I'm honored to do so!

Love ya back! :)
Myra

Paula Kaye said...

The ignorance is on both sides of the racial line! The blacks cannot expect the whites to do it all for them. And the whites cannot expect the blacks to just keep giving. It is a two way street. I know that you read my post. I see it from "a good and decent cop's" point of view. My prayer is that people will allow the judicial system to work for us. It has worked for more than 200 years. There are certainly good and bad cops. There are certainly good and bad white people. There are certainly good and bad black people. We have to get all the facts before we head out to social media to begin attacking each other. And then we need to join hands and try to solve this huge racial divide that has become our everyday life in the great country of ours. I, too, will be praying for peace for all of us. And I will try my best to treat others as I want to be treated. It has to start somewhere. Your grandson is adorable. Thank you for sharing him with us today! It is boys like him (and like my grandson) that we need to fight for.. to make our country a better place! We are all part of the human race!!

Chatty Crone said...

I tell you what - I just don't know what to make of it - it is so sad. God teaches us that WE ARE ALL IMPORTANT. No one is better than the other in God's eyes. We should all pray.

jack69 said...

My mama and daddy were raised on farms in North Georgia. I grew up with my mama's views, it wasn't cool to say when was near passing, and she meant no meanness about it. All the way up to the end, when asked, she would say, "In my house there was no difference in the coloreds and whites." She meant that in the most sincere way. She ALWAYS told me, "Son, using the term 'colored' shows respect."

The government loves the blame game in every corner of government, not just in race. Show government a problem and they will find something or someone to BLAME! Once that is done all is well. It is crazy!

Prayer certainly makes a difference!

Susan Kane said...

Well spoken and well thought out. Tragedy abounds, all over the world.
John 16:33 These things I have spoken to you, so that in Me, you may have peace...in the world you have tribulation. But take courage, I have overcome the world.

Lowcarb team member said...

A good message, and I do like your photo's too.

All the best Jan

Debby@Just Breathe said...

I am praying too! Things are not looking good and all lives matter. I pray for everyone's safety.

Jerralea said...

Betty, I can certainly appreciate your feelings. I've got grandchildren, too, and I pray for a world where everyone is treated respectfully. You brought up 2 good points: pray and treat others kindly as you would want to be treated. If only all would do that! I saw a bulletin board at the high school the other day that said, "Kindness is never wasted." I believe that. All each of us can do is start with ourselves, and teach our families, to treat with kindness, and hopefully it will spread.

Bobbi and Gracie said...

I become speechless through it all... I did happen on a Facebook post that requested all to set their alarm for eight o'clock PM every day and when it goes off, take one minute to say a prayer for our country. The power of prayer can bring us all back together and heal our land if we just have faith. This little guy is absolutely precious!! Hopefully our prayers will make things better for him and many others in the future. God bless! Great post.

Wendy said...

This is such a difficult post to comment on because the recent events are so horrible and seem to be without solution. What strikes me though is the photo of that sweet baby as we try to imagine what his world will be.

Bijoux said...

I am truly beginning to believe that quality of life for our children and grandchildren will be lower than what we experienced in our lifetime, on every level.

Jo said...

It's all those damned guns Betty. Until you get rid of those, these things will continue to happen.

Rick Watson said...

Well said, Betty. It is sad, but I refuse to let it make me crazy. I love that little ducky too:)
R

Kathleen Valentine said...

I have 2 bi-racial nieces and I do worry for them. It is a ridiculous situation when our military is composed of all races and giving their lives so we can stay safe at home and kill each other. It's just plain nuts.

Veronica Lee said...

I am praying with you, dear Betty! I too, believe that God made only one race - the human race. Racial discrimination is also a big problem in my country. While we're on this topic (so beautifully shared by you), I have something sweet to share too - http://ofmiceandramen.blogspot.com/2009/07/colour-blindness.html

Maria Zannini said...

I think we get caught in the moment and we feel like things will never get better, but they do.

Society changes. It changes slowly to our eyes, but it does evolve and usually for the better. We just have to endure the growing pains.

I see your little grandson, but I had a dear friend from 50 years ago who was also biracial. I think he'll be the first to admit that things are better now than they were for him.

PS Not to get off the subject but I think I figured out why my emailed blog posts were not going through. Unfortunately it's far more complicated than I can fix so I might have to part company with Mailchimp. I hope you'll keep visiting me anyway. Hugs, sweetie.

Saleslady371 said...

Our service this morning at church was dedicated to prayer, especially for those who maintain law and order. When Christians pray it is a big thing; God gave us power and authority. I like your post.

yaya said...

My niece is police detective in Chicago and I pray for her everyday. She a wonderful young lady...a wife, mom, daughter, granddaughter, sister, niece, good friend. A person who just wants to help others and serve and protect. I pray for all who might be victims of injustice and just plain cruelty. I'm with you..can't we all just get along and forget about race, religion, and politics? That's my dream.

Elizabeth said...

There are certainly some terrible things going on in our country right now and you're right, all we can do is keep praying and treat each other kindly. We are all created equal, red and yellow, black and white, we are all precious in God's sight!

Sheena-kay Graham said...

Amen. It saddens me when all police are painted with the same brush. The majority are great working people who protect us citizens. The murder of anyone is a tragedy that goes beyond race or badge. Indeed I'll pray as well Betty. This is all sad but we must hold unto hope and believe. All the best to you and your family. Hi little guy and you too yellow rubber ducky.

Optimistic Existentialist said...

SO beautifully written...it was a tough week last week. Sad and tragic. I really hope we can meet in the middle...I hope upon hope.

Linda said...

Amen! We need to stop dividing and be united as humans, respectfully disagreeing, more than ever in our politics, faith, and protests. We need to bring our families up with love,to know responsibility and consequences. We've got too many broken families,a growing lack of respect for life, and a problem with drugs, mental health, and violence that needs to be better addressed. We may need to encourage some people to find another line of work, better training to better assess the risk, and stop overdoing the racial profiling. We need to be patient while investigations take place. I was excused from a jury pool two weeks ago, as I think very highly of our local police officers, and sadly covered three funeral processions of police officers killed in the line of duty in last five years or so. Castile was loved at the school where he worked. I didn't watch the video but have read about it and it is disturbing, if truthful, filmed after shooting, that he was being respectful and doing what he was told. Personally I would feel threatened by someone carrying a gun, which can be legal, so I know I would make a terrible officer. I'm all for protesting peacefully & legally & bringing awareness to our problems. Some think their group actions are above the law, no wonder the same week, a 2-year-old was killed and a 15-month-old wounded in a drive by shooting. Accountability and justice for all! Lord have mercy.

Intense Guy said...

Violence is never going to solve anything - "turn the other cheek".

Susan Gourley/Kelley said...

I'm with you on the worry for family friends. Two of my son's best friends are MOC and I worry about them. I pray like you. We all need to do better, be better and love more.

Chrys Fey said...

I can't fathom them either. My sister was adopted from the Philippines and her husband is African American, so my nephews are bi-racial. And my family is white. We all love each other. These events really make me sad. As well as mad. I hate how all cops are being painted as bad and racists. This isn't true. I pray things change soon.

Liz A. said...

I read an interesting article over the weekend on Slate. It reframed what's going on in a way I liked. There's a struggle going on, but not between races. It's between those who want a race war and those who don't. And judging by those I encounter online, those who don't are a far, far bigger group than those who do.

Don't buy into the hype. Ignore those who want to stir the pot. We are all the human race.

Sharon said...

It's such a sad and crazy world. On the one hand, we all strive for *tolerance* and allow Truth to become relative. On the other hand, hate is brewing worldwide.

Thankfully, Jesus is coming...and I happen to think it will be sooner than we think.

GOD BLESS.

Deanna said...

We need to all come together and quit this decisiveness and we must turn to God and follow his laws. I pray daily, hourly and fear for the world we have become. Wonderful post.

indah nuria Savitri said...

what happened lately has been very horrible. But as you, I will not stop praying for a better, more peaceful world for all of us. Hope our prayers will be answered

Sunni said...

It's a crazy world out there. There are always groups of people trying to stir things up. I suspect there are many mentally ill people too. We should all try to get along, no matter what color we are. The people who kill each other over their differences are sick individuals. If course we're all different. Life would be dull if everyone was the same.

I'm also afraid for law enforcement. That's a very dangerous job. My BIL is a sheriff. His dept always tries to work in pairs so at least there's someone there to have your back, or call for help (hopefully).

I don't suppose this world will get any better any time soon.

Sunni

Lisa said...

Im a sister and a cousin to two in law inforcement. I also have friends from all nationalities and color. I pray for them all that peace will overcome.
Great post.
Lisa

Linda said...

AMEN!!

DMS said...

I know we can all overcome this together with kindness. We need to try our best to not let fear be our guide and instead let love and kindness lead the way. If everyone goes out of their way to be a little kinder than usual to all the people they encounter- then that kindness will grow. My heart breaks for everyone that has lost someone they love due to violence and hate.

Great post!
~Jess

The Brown Recluse (TBR) said...

When God, via Paul, told us to "pray without ceasing," I guess He meant it. There is just so much, everywhere we turn, and these days we are pounded with bad news on the hour.

It really is a scary time in which we live. I've said it before, but I really don't know how people who don't have Jesus do it!

Your little guy? He will be a bridge and will greatly help to close the gap. You keep praying, God listens.

Danielle L Zecher said...

He's too cute chilling in the pool like that.

I hope people will come to their senses soon, and realize that we're all just people. We may look different, have different jobs, and different ideas, but we're all just human beings.