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Monday, April 13, 2015

Koda

A/Z, Today it is a sad one about me

K - Koda

This is a sad one today, one might say morbid, its okay if you skip it.

Years before, when we were considering getting a puppy and we sort of had our eyes on Koda, hubby and me agreed on two things.  The dog would come with us, no matter where we lived, and when it was time to say "good bye" because of the dog's health, we would not let it linger but would make that hard choice to ease suffering, even though we knew how sad that would be for us.  We had even talked about how we would dispose of his remains, not wanting to cremate and keep his ashes, not even wanting to bury him in the backyard of wherever we lived.

We kept those promises through the years.  Koda lived in Montana, Laguna Niguel, California, Murrieta California (2 houses there) and Chula Vista, California.  Total of five houses, three rentals, two we owned.  We paid pet deposits. We modified houses to accommodate him.

We kept the harder of the promise when we found out his cancer came back and there was not much hope and only a short few weeks left.  When we went to the vet that day to fulfill our final promise, we thought we were prepared for everything, except when the receptionist asked us if we wanted Koda's ashes. In the heat of the moment with the rawness of our grief of what was about to happen, we said "yes".

A few weeks later after we moved a box arrived in the mail.  I have to say it was so lovingly done.  There was a clipping of his hair and this nice box.  It was in a lovely little clear bag with a purple ribbon holding everything together.  We put the box up on the mantle.  




When I was thinking A/Z, I kept coming back to Koda for "K".  Nothing else seemed to fit and so I thought what better way to honor the best corgi we will ever have but to include him in this year's A/Z Challenge.  He's here with us in thought and on the mantle.  He was my blogging buddy for years.  Gone, but never forgotten.

After we had put the box up on the mantle back in January, I hadn't brought it down until I was getting ready to take a picture for the challenge.  I opened up the bag and took the box out of it and the little envelope that contained a bit of his hair and a lovely poem.  What I didn't realize at the time when we first had gotten it back in January was that there was also an imprint of his paw that was enclosed in plaster of cement.  Looking at it of course made me cry (as I am doing right now).

Loved that Little Guy. Glad he was part of our family for the 10 years he was.

Would have loved to have shown him the parts of Arizona that we have seen and walked him places we have walked. 

But he had a good life and for that I'm grateful he lived it with us.

53 comments:

Mevely317 said...

Oh Betty, how could your "K" be anything else?
I've tears myself. But weren't we so blessed to have experienced this sort of love.
Your vet sounds so loving and compassionate! When I went to p/u Caraleigh's ashes I wasn't sure what to expect. But it sure as heck wasn't a cheap plastic cylinder with her name and DOD typed on the top. All that's unimportant now, because she'll always live in my heart... as Koda does in yours.

joeh said...

Those Corgi's are great little dogs, and I know Koda was extra special.

Naqvee said...

I know how much a dog becomes a real family member. I had one too, his name was Lucky because we rescued him on a windy winter night. But in return what every precious things he gave me in 2 years of his short time, I think I am the one who was Lucky.

TARYTERRE said...

Koda was family and when they pass your heart goes with them. What a lovely sendoff he had thanks to the vet. Hearing about the tuft of hair and sweet paw print brought tears to my eyes too. I know how much you loved him. K could only stand for Koda.

Nick Wilford said...

It made me well up reading this. We've four dogs and they are all under three so we have not thought too deeply about this, although our youngest daughter has asked about it. (She's very aware of this as she was five when her big brother passed.) What's important is he had a lovely life with you and was loved. Some animals, and people, don't get to experience that.

EcoCatLady said...

OK... now I'm crying too. It's just so hard to lose them. Sounds like you did right by him. Big Hugs...
xoxox -Cat

Sally said...

A lovely tribute.

Natasha Duncan-Drake said...

Awww, he sounds like he was a fantastic friend. It's hard to make the final decisions for them isn't it - we had to do it for one of our kitties a few years ago. It was the kindest thing.
Tasha
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TBR/Committed Thoughts said...

Aww Betty, I'm crying, too. Of course K would be for Koda! It couldn't be anything else.

Bijoux said...

What a nice box and remembrances they put together for you. Koda was certainly precious.

Plowing Through Life (Martha) said...

Tears here, too... What a beautiful tribute to Koda. This post really hugged my heart.

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

What a nice memory box you have. Kodak was a big part of your life for all those years. I understand just how much because I too have loved and lost some treasured pets. When the last one I had died, the vet gave us a paw print plaque too. It's a nice touch and had never had that happen before with any of the others. I'm sure your Koda will never be forgotten.

Wendy said...

Your vet provided a lovely service. I wonder if that's common.

Pat Hatt said...

Wow, your vet went above and beyond. That is great. A good life is truly what matters in the end and he sure had that.

Sean @ His And Her Hobbies said...

I agree with the others that K needed to be for Koda. He was a big part of your life just like any loved pet. I love that they did his paw print cast for you.

Sean at His and Her Hobbies

Intense Guy said...

Koda would have never wanted you to cry - but he would have felt the overwhelming love you had (and have) for him, as anyone that reads this heartfelt tribute to him can.

The special pets are so, so hard to lose. I still grieve for my loved Gypsy Dog - now gone for years - I see the little groove she cut in the lawn out front - and can hear her barking to me in with the joy of being able to run free as I look out my new office window.

Koda was a treasure - and treasured - he knew that - and touched you in return.

Misha Gericke said...

Pets take up such an important part of our lives. I don't even know how some people just give them up when they move.

Stephanie Faris said...

:-( I think that little paw print is imprinted on your heart forever. When our little furry friends leave us, I've found the best thing to focus on is the happy life we gave them and the happiness they brought us, as well. Koda was lucky to have such amazing, loving people!

Linda said...

Had no doubt "K" would be Koda this year! Really sweet with the poem and paw print, also. I've seen homes where the leash and dog tags are framed in shadow box with photo.

Funny in My Mind said...

As soon as I saw todays Word on my blog feed, I started crying. I never met him but with all of the stories and pictures, I felt like I did. The sweetest little dedication for sure. I am glad you decided to keep him with you wherever you went, no matter what. Even in death.

Cindi said...

Listen here, I tell ya the truth. I like dogs, but Im not a dog lover. Same as people whom like or dislike cats but not love them. I never touched, smelled, met, held, cuddled or more importantly FED Koda,lol but your love for him came thru your blog made me fall in love. Some pets like people just have "it". Koda did! May he be know as the Elvis in the dog world. lol The plaster pawprint such a special touch! I think you should add a plaster treat. thx for sharing your love for such a sweet pet!

Chrys Fey said...

I'm all teary-eyed now. Koda sounds like he was an amazing dog and friend. You have my thinking about my Rosie (my kitty) who passed on last year. I also got her ashes, but I put them in the soil of a plant my sister got me as a condolence gift. I also got a poem and a few of her whiskers. I framed them. <3 I had Rosie for 18 years. I still miss her.

Hugs!!!

Susan Gourley/Kelley said...

What a lovely thing from the vet. Our vet sent us a paw print and a card with the signatures of all the people who took care of our cat over the 19 years of her life. My daughter kept it. Thanks for sharing your lovely story and now I'm crying too.

Secret Agent Woman said...

I don't think that's morbid. You're memorializing a pet you loved.

Maria Zannini said...

It was nice of your vet to clip a piece of fur. I do that too before I have to take them in.

Hubby and I have a pact. Whichever of us goes first, we'll mingle our ashes together with the dogs, and spread them over our woods.

Koda was so loved. I'm glad you found each other.

susie said...

RIP Koda.

Birgit said...

I knew K would be for Koda and I am so happy to read this post. It is an honurable post for a loving dog. You wrote it beautifully and I am certain he will have a special place somewhere in your home. You should frame his hair with the paw print and a picture of him. That would be so nice:) Another blogger friend of mine, Asha, who creates cards, is going through a tough time with her doggie Rosie who is dying of cancer

Lynn Proctor said...

So special-I am glad you had ten wonderful years together <3

Sophie Duncan said...

Our pets are parts of our family and you clearly loved Koda. You did the right thing to make sure he didn't suffer.
Sophie
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Joanne Noragon said...

Some pets are so special. Koda was a super special.

Zannie Shaman said...

very thoughtful vets

Ruth said...

Furbabies make the world a better place.

Sharon said...

Kinda can't talk, Betty, this is just real close to my heart. I always felt like your dear Koda was a friend of mine, too. His passing makes me sad. I think it's wonderful, though, that you guys chose to have this very special remembrance of him. Seems like a fitting tribute.

Personally, I think God has some plans for our dear furry friends. And I happen to think we'll see them again.

GOD BLESS.

(K is for Kleenex, too. I need some...)

Jerralea said...

Oh, I'm so glad you said yes to the little box!

I know you are so thankful to have 10 years of memories of your pet.

So sorry it didn't work out for him to come to Arizona with you.

SweetMarie said...

I've always felt your love for Koda. I miss Koda. I'm crying right now. this is beautiful. we have four pups, I want them to always be with us..

J E Oneil said...

Pets are part of our families and losing them is heartbreaking. I'm sure Koda loved you and your husband very much.

Sophia Camaya said...

Pets are our babies. This was such a touching story of how much they mean to us every day. I'm sure Koda's spirit is everywhere you are :)

Sunni said...

What a beautiful and touching story. I have cats and have had four of them cremated (so far). They are in their little boxes in my curio cabinet. I could not dare to think of them being buried and left behind after we moved, knowing we wouldn't live in the same place forever.

Animals are special and touch our lives in special ways. They don't live as long as we do and it's so tragic to have to say goodbye. But I always take solace in the fact that they probably lived longer than they would have if I hadn't given them a happy home.

What a nice gesture the crematorium made to leave you with a paw print, a lock of hair and a poem as well as the ashes. I only have the ashes for my cats, but I took a small lock of hair before I surrendered them to the vet.

Sunni
http://sunni-survivinglife.blogspot.com/

Jo said...

Do you not plan to get another pet? I always used to get a puppy every time I lost a dog. Found it helped. Not the last time unfortunately.

Liz A. said...

But he has seen Arizona. He's still with you in spirit.

Megan Whitson Lee said...

This was not morbid at all and a beautiful tribute to Koda. I always loved seeing those wonderful pictures of him.

Bobbi and Gracie said...

Oh My. I just knew you were going to make me cry. What a beautiful tribute to your beloved Koda. I know how much you loved him and it had to be one of the hardest things you have ever experienced.
And now, at this time in Gracie's life... we think of this every now and again. She will be eleven in September. My, how the years do fly by. I cannot think of life without her and cannot imagine the pain we are going to feel when she is gone. To walk in the house and not have her greet me is just more than I can bear to think about. But. I know God gives us strength in those heartbreaking times in our lives... so I, like you, will depend on him to see me through it. Lovely post, Betty!

Chatty Crone said...

I loved him too - I had no idea or I didn't think about getting ashes for an animal but i think it is kind of sweet,

jack69 said...

I am late, but I loved this. No question, you guys loved Koda. All I can say is, this is a neat entry. I feel good, now morbid. I thought of you when I read a survey that asked, "Would you like to know what your pet thought of you!"
In my mind I said, "No doubt Koda knew their love and doubled it back."

yaya said...

Hugs...such a heartfelt post.

Stephen Tremp said...

I understand. Pets are family too.

Roland D. Yeomans said...

Koda was very lucky to have you both. I stayed with my Sheltie as they put him to "sleep." I cried and cried. But I wanted him to have a friend at the end. I did the same with my cat, Gypsy -- who I put in one of my books.

Here is the link to the post I wrote of Gypsy and the life lessons I learned from her:
http://rolandyeomans.blogspot.com/2011/04/g-is-for-gypsyonly-happy-wordspromise.html

Debby@Just Breathe said...

My heart aches with you....((Hugs))

Ellie said...

I am so sorry about Koda, he was so lucky to have a home with you! We put our 15 year old bloodhound cross down 2 years ago, and to this day I miss her every single day. It is not easy! They become our family! hugs for you.

Veronica Lee said...

Of course K would be for Koda! It couldn't be anything else.

Sending you lots of hugs......

Tina@WhatWeKeep said...

Betty, it broke my heart to read about Koda. I am so sorry. We lost our corgi Henry last summer. Life isn't the same without him so I know that empty space in your life right now. I didn't know you had left CA. Sending you a big hug, Tina

Linda said...

I have learned in my "adulthood" that pets become an important part of your lives. As a child I had a horse that I loved spent many hours enjoying life. When I got married I not only gained a husband, but his dog also. My first life with a dog. Lots of stories.

Kat said...

Aww. I'm crying right along with you.
Our animals really do become part of our family. It is so hard not to have them around anymore.
What a lovely little memorial you have for Koda. I think that is such a wonderful idea and it is so well done.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.
((hugs))