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Thursday, May 8, 2014

May's truth is

Once again, I'm doing a Thursday Truth Is, as inspired by Juli over at Surviving Boys.

Truth is, I kind of miss the craziness of the A/Z challenge, even though it was getting weary to keep up with it all.

Truth is, hubby found himself in a courtroom last Friday contesting a traffic ticket he got.  Truth is, the police man didn't show up.  Truth is, case dismissed. Truth is, I think "code enforcement" in this particular case equalled "revenue for the city" though I don't fault the police because they are only doing what they are told to do (blog post may follow on all the details).

Truth is, son and friends partied a little too much one night and decided taking a taxi was in their best interest.  Truth is, all four got a ticket for not wearing a seat belt in the back of a cab (four passengers, three seat belts ) (and driver got a ticket for having too many people in his cab even though he told them "to come on in"). Truth is, he made the best decision to get into a cab, next time maybe he'll have to count seat belts and choose a different cab or dump one of his friends.

Truth is May 2nd was the anniversary of my parents' wedding; they would have been married 61 years.  Truth is May 3rd was my mom's 93th birthday if she was still alive. Truth is, she's been gone seven and a half years and I was getting to the point of acceptance, still missing her and loving her, but not as sad as before until I saw this picture my sister posted on her FB page on my mom's birthday.  I hadn't seen this picture before, it was a "random" shot taken by a family member at her wedding; not the posed photographer's shots I had seen.  Seeing their happiness and their love for each other got to me, knowing that six short years later she would be widowed and raising three young kids on her own.  I just love the look on their faces; I just thought for a minute "what if".

Truth is, I think Koda is going blind.  It saddens me, but potentially inevitable with him having diabetes.  We're learning to adjust making sure he doesn't get startled if we walk up to him and when throwing treats to him making sure we do it at an angle he might be able to see it.

Truth is, I don't know what is up with email these days as it relates to comments left on blogs, but I have a lot of blogs I comment on that I get a notice that the email didn't go through. Comment is on the blog, but no email about comment is being received by the recipient.  So if I lately have commented on your blog and you haven't gotten an email notification, do check out your blog and check comments there. I'm finding I have to do the same myself with my blog. Can't quite figure out how to fix it either and it is just on certain blogs I follow, not all blogs I follow.

Truth is, I'm thankful for each of you that come and visit me and enjoy reading what I have to write.

Truth is, God is good. All the time.  No matter what.



Sorry to hear about Koda. All you can do is be there for him. I think that is ridiculous about the cab situation. Seems they did the right thing and then got punished for it. Sometimes the police get carried away.

Bijoux said...

That is crazy about passengers being ticketed! I'm sorry for your sadness over your parents short marriage. I often think of the 'what ifs' when life is cut so short.

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

That is very strange about the emails on comments made...I haven't received any and have checked to see that I've read all the comments on my blog. I always enjoy it when you leave a message. Thank you. Sorry to hear about Koda. I had a dog once that went blind but did quite well. We just kept an extra eye out for him but rarely did he need a lot of help. Strange too about the ticketing. Sometimes I wonder that there could be more important things for the law enforcement to be doing. Looks like a warm sunny day is headed our way here. Hope you have some nice weather there too and have a great day!

Robyn :) said...

I am not getting email notifications of your comments :( But they are showing up on my blog, which I check anyway.

Sorry to hear about Koda :(

Linda said...

Yep, happiness written all over vintage family photo!

Sorry about Koda's complication, good he knows his surroundings.

Too bad passengers didn't get just a warning considering the situation. At least hubby had successful contesting.

Sunday had a small 85th BD open house, enjoyed mostly from her recliner.

Enjoy the weekend!

joeh said...

The cab thing is ridiculous! Kids do the right thing and get pulled over...stupid.

sorry about Koda, doge will adapt pretty well, they get around with their smell.

I get the same email fail notices, but I have been receiving emails along with comments

lyndagrace said...

My mom passed away 4 years ago. I still go for the phone to give her a call. The photo of your mom and dad is truthfully precious.
The comments you leave for me show up on my blog.

Intense Guy said...

Who ever said, "The law is an ASS" knew what they were talking about.

Poor Koda - I am sure he can "see" how well he is loved and adored.

"What if" indeed. Life takes us on its random ways.

jack69 said...

The truth is, 'I love not-posed pictures best.'

Truth is I love hearing about your mother even briefly, I have a wonderful picture in my mind of her. It is there because in the past you have painted such a picture of her in words, it is set.
Love from North CArolina

Jeanie said...

I am sorry to hear about Koda's vision problems. Also sorry to hear about the seat belt ticket, but at least they decided to take a taxi.
That is a wonderful picture of your parents.
(We'll see if you get this and I will let you know if I get a notice that it didn't go through).

Shelly said...

The comment/ email thing is happening to me, too. Big hugs to you~

MS said...

Oh...I like this format! Regarding your son--good for him for making a good choice! I'm wondering why all 4 boys got tickets. I would think it would be just the one who didn't have a seat belt on--unless all of them weren't wearing the belts.

It is another sorry fact of life when our pets show signs of aging...and us too!

You are right! God is good. No matter what.
Mary from The View from my World

Pat Hatt said...

I get the email thing every once in a while when i visit a few blogs too. Hopefully Koda's sight doesn't fully go, but yeah diabetes can sure make things go downhill fast.

Tracy said...

I've noticed the comment thing happening to me too. It seems to be the same one or two people who leave me comments. Maybe it is whatever they are using to read the blog?

Joanne Noragon said...

A lot of truths to deal with. i feel most about Koda.I once had a dog who went blind from cataracts. He approached it like a blind person. I never rearranged the furniture and he used it all for reference points. Our back yard was fenced and he had free range of a fair amount of land. He had access to food and water all the time.

Birgit said...

Funny how a picture or something else can set an emotional reaction-It's a beautiful picture that shows alot of love. Your mom sounds like one strong woman! Your kids are safe and that is the main thing and they did the right thing-nice to hear about (not that they got a ticket but that they took a cab). Love your blog and glad that your husband won-yahoo! I feel bad about Koda-I have seen dogs who are blind and they still do pretty well as long as one doesn't move the furniture around. he is very much loved and that is grand

J Hanna said...

Sorry to hear about Koda. I think the same thing is happening to my mom's cat she has had for sixteen years.

susie said...

That's a lot. I'll pick one. Good for your son. I'd be proud. :-)

Liz A. said...

I'm sorry about Koda.

At least your son got in the cab. The ticketing was annoying, but better a piddly ticket than what could have happened...

The email thing... Some bloggers don't have their email enabled. If they don't, they probably don't get the email.

Stephanie Faris said...

My mom's corgi is having a lot of health problems--he has the hip dysplasia that tends to affect corgis, sadly. I wish dogs lived 40 years!

Mevely317 said...

How disheartening for you to witness Koda's plight! But how fortunate he's the two of you to help ease what must be so confusing!

I know what you mean about old pictures stirring up emotion. Learning your parents were only together 6 short years is really sad, yes. She must have been a remarkably strong lady.

Nevertheless, God is good. All the time. Sweet post, my friend.

Paula Kaye said...

I like this Truth is thing....might have to put it on my list of things to do. Anyway first and foremost on behalf of all cops out there (my baby son is a cop) they are only doing their job enforcing the laws. Let's go easy on them, okay! (Not you Betty!) I wish that I could figure out how to leave a comment on a blog and then have a reply to my comment emailed to me so that I don't have to remember which blogs I left comments on and go back to see if anyone answered me. Is there a way to do that?

Veronica Lee said...

It's heartbreaking to see our beloved pets on the decline. So sorry for Koda.
A photo of my younger mom my sister posted on FB stirred me too - my 90 year-old mom is now in the early stages of Alzheimer's, a shadow of her self. It's devastating to see this beautiful, wonderful woman morphing into a stranger right before my eyes.

Jerralea said...

Betty, I have been getting your comments but not in my emails, just as you said. I'm so glad you are commenting anyway! Thanks for your words of wisdom.

I had never seen a Truth Is post before, but I feel as if I know you better after reading it.

What a gorgeous picture of your sister and her husband! I'm so glad she has that wonderful picture to remember happy times. So sad to think they only had 6 years!

I cannot believe that passengers in the back of a cab were ticketed! Especially when they were trying to be safe by not driving. It makes me think that the police had too much time on their hands that day ...

I love your last truth you shared - God is good. All the time. No matter what. Amen!

Hilary Melton-Butcher said...

Hi Betty .. sorry about Koda - they manage incredibly well though and at least she'll have you to take her out for walks .. etc ..

How sad that your Mama was widowed so early in life .. but that's an amazing photo ... and she saw you all grow up and her grandchildren ..

With thoughts - Hilary

Debby@Just Breathe said...

I'm so sorry about Koda.....((HUGS))
I seem to only have problems with the no-reply people who are usually linked up with Google+

Hope your have a lovely Mother's Day.

Lexa Cain said...

Seems kinda unfair about the 3 vs 4 seatbelt thing, considering they made the wise and mature decision to take a cab at all. And who wears seatbelts in the backs of cabs? I'm from NYC and never wore a seatbelt in a cab. I loved the pic of your parents! Have a great weekend! :)

Barbara In Caneyhead said...

Glad you got on board with the challenge and enjoyed it.
Life & Faith in Caneyhead

netablogs said...

Thanks for sharing those truthful nuggets. Sorry to hear the boys got tickets, but so glad to hear they chose to take a taxi - smart move!
Love the wedding pic -- I wish we could have had more natural, fun shots at my wedding, but back then, we didn't even think about that. Strange how things change. I love the way wedding pics are taken now.
Sorry to hear about Koda.. it's hard watching pets have health issues.
Times may be tough, but I too, am thankful that God is good. :)

Carol Noren Johnson said...

Truth is, I think you are a very thoughtful lady. You definitely have the gift of gab--an old saying.

Glad your son was smart and didn't get a DUI, but took a cab.


Linda said...

Truth is...God is in control and gives us strength to make it through each day.

I admit I smiled through parts of your posts. I am so glad the taxi driver did give the young men a ride rather than having them drive.

Your mom must have been on awesome lady. The wedding picture is precious and they look so full of hope for the future.

Hopefully once school is out I will be able to read blogs more faithfully and post more often.

Have a blessed week.

Kat said...

That makes me spitting mad that your son and his friends (and the cab driver) got a ticket for being smart. I mean, come on!!! They did the right thing and they are being punished for it. Ugh. I wish common sense were more prevalent today.

I love that picture of your mom and dad. Beautiful. Such joy on their faces. I'm sorry you are missing her so.

As far as emails go, I don't think I've ever gotten an email notification from you and you have left many comments on my blog. I think it is because I have never set up my blog to receive the notifications. I think it has more to do with how the blog you are commenting is set up and not anything you are doing. I think???
Anyway, I always appreciate your comments. :)

Chatty Crone said...

Was your mom born in 1919? I think my mom would be 93 too.
I am sorry about Koda. I love him.
I am glad he got in the cab - I didn't know you had to wear seat belts in the back seat.
Truth is glad you are my friend.

Sharon said...

Truth is, you're a very special person, and I'm grateful to call you my friend.

So sorry about Koda - hoping that you can find a way for him to deal with this problem. He's a trooper, I think he'll do fine.

And yes, God is good, all the time, no matter what.

Truth is, I am so grateful for that!!


Bobbi and Gracie said...

Truth is... I love coming to your blog to visit, though lately I have been blog-absent a lot.
Poor sweet Koda :-( This breaks my heart.
My brother's dog (a cockapoo) is named Koda too.
Have a good week, Betty!

Grammy Staffy said...

People liove your blog... Just look at all of these comments. Glad that your hubby beat the ticket. How sad about your mom and dad....and Koda. Thanks for your encouragement.... I dread this procedure. I'll be glad when it is over. Hugs, Lura

Weekend-Windup said...

Truth is I love blogging and visit your blogs. Truth is the truth!

Linda :) said...

This entry was a little sad... Hugs to you... :)
I just remember too that I'm not able to edit my blogger through the dashboard, it just loads to a blank page... so I'm limited to a bit of editing right on my blog...
and my shelfari won't link to my Facebook page since May 1st...

Mary said...

So sorry to read about Koda's eye sight. When I read about the fires out in San Diego, I thought about you all and am keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

Secret Agent Woman said...

There's a lot packed into that truth post! So sad about your mom being widowed so early. I imagine she had a lot of "what if" thoughts, too.

The Brown Recluse said...

I'm sorry about Koda. Hopefully, you're wrong about that...or maybe his sight is just dimming.

I love that pic of your parents. You are right, they look so happy. Your mom was very pretty.

I want to hear the details on the court date! Sounds like some of CA's cops don't have much to do...stopping a cabbie to ticket them all for no seat belt? Sheezh!

The Brown Recluse said...

I'm sorry about Koda. Hopefully, you're wrong about that...or maybe his sight is just dimming.

I love that pic of your parents. You are right, they look so happy. Your mom was very pretty.

I want to hear the details on the court date! Sounds like some of CA's cops don't have much to do...stopping a cabbie to ticket them all for no seat belt? Sheezh!

The Brown Recluse said...

Have no clue why that posted twice. I guess I was just needing to see my words in print!