a bench with a view

a bench with a view

Thursday, October 24, 2013


I thought I would include a picture of Koda.  In the future, he'll be the only one I'll be posting pictures and stories about in my family, except for things I want to share about myself and myself only.

I made a mistake posting the entries about events happening in the lives of those close to me.  It, like I said at the beginning, would be a sad, painful story, but it truly was an answer to prayer and had redemptive value.  I won't be sharing any more about it and have taken down those entries and what I choose to write about my family in the future will be done in a different, not public forum.

I thought a bit about what to do about blogging and decided to stick around as I have made wonderful friends here, some who have been with me and me with them since I started blogging in 2005.

I am changing my focus of what I blog and how I blog.  This blog will mainly be a "fluff" blog.  Maybe a recipe I want to share or telling about a book I read, maybe a picture of a local event or a picture of the dog, maybe something I'm studying in the Bible.

I wish I had perfect kids, but I don't.  I wish my kids didn't do the things they did/do.  Other than Jesus, I bet God wishes he had perfect children, but he doesn't.  We are all a work in progress for him, those of us who call him our God, Jesus our Savior, or those he is pursuing.

He is molding, pruning, guiding, leading us that allow him to do so and I truly believe in ALL situations he makes beauty out of ashes and he makes beautiful things out of us.

My children are a work of God's process and he is not done with them yet, for that I'm grateful.  I will always continue to trust in him, even when things don't make sense and are painful to walk through because I know he's walking alongside me and family and for that I am thankful Lord.


Renegades said...

Well I'll be gladly reading whatever you decide to post.

I don't know what the right answers are when it comes to blogging. Sometimes I fear I share to much. However, it plays in the back of my mind what if one person out there is helped?

I think to each of us it is our choice what we share.

I didn't realize any of my family read one until my nutty aunt sent me a Jesus card. Then I was like oh well it's to late it's all out there. It's how it is. Life will go on.

JosephAlsarraf said...

Hey, glad to see that you are back! How's Koda? I have the same issues with blogging too. Sometimes there are things that I want to say, but I don't want to because they are too personal, or I am not allowed to, but I like to blog.
Just write what you feel, but I know that it can get frustrating when everything you write about is too personal, or your worried that it will affect someone else.
Just write about yourself, or make up stories, or things that aren't too personal, so that you won't get worried.
I don't anyway, glad to see that you are back! : )

Funny in My Mind said...

It is unfortunate that some of your readers couldn't keep their judgemental comments to themselves. Since we are all handed our share of burdens and trials, nobody should cast stones. It must be nice to live a perfect life. That being said, I will continue to correspond privately with you elsewhere and read about the real and not always fluffy truths that are sometimes handed to us. I understand and sympathize what you are dealing with and the heartache involved. You did not create this. Shame on the ones who made you feel the way you did.
Thank you so much for the cute Koda picture!
As always , B

Sharon said...

I will enjoy reading whatever you have to say. No matter what. I'm just glad that you've decided to stick around in Blog Land.

We are all a work in progress, and the Lord loves us. He is continually working good in every situation. That we can trust and believe in with all our hearts.

Cute, adorable Koda. So good to see him!


Michelle said...

You have my email, and you can email with anything, anytime, and I will not judge, but love. Sometimes there are things we need to get OUT. I am here always if you want to share. Be blessed, Michelle

Bijoux said...

Totally understand the need for privacy. I always look forward to your positive posts, Betty.

Dana said...

I understand about the need to keep some things private. I do the same thing. I'm glad you decided to stick with your blog. I enjoy your posts so much and appreciate your friendship. ☺

Pat Hatt said...

Hey pups work. I never show pics of anyone but the cats either, besides my profile pic, that is it. But when you are a rhyming nut, you can get away with anything and even if it is the truth, few ever really grasp it. Kinda freeing lol

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Aren't we all problem kids??? None of us is perfect for sure. The great thing is that when we make a mistake we have a chance each new day to try and get it right. Sounds like you must have had some negative feedback about your blog posts. Sorry to hear that but am glad you will continue to post. I enjoy your entries and also your comments.

Linda said...

Beautifully said! "For we are His workmanship..." Ephesians 2:10

I love redemptive stories. We could certainly privately fill in our own details- sure most of us have seen this in ourselves, family and friends.

Koda is looking cute as ever.:)

Intense Guy said...

I read "Funny in my Minds" comment and find myself 100% in agreement with her.

Keep on keeping on!!!

Tum tum rubs for Koda!!!

jack69 said...

Of course your writing and life's dedication always shows thru in your writing.
Hey, I wish my sons had been all I wanted them to be. WE dream, but they live their lives like we did.

Love you lady and always enjoy your 'STUFF', fluff or not. (smile)

Jeanie said...

I'm glad to see a picture of Koda looking happy and healthy and glad to see you here. I am sorry you have gone through turmoil about your posts, but know you will do what is right for you and your family. The previous comments show you have lots of support.

Shelly said...

I am SO glad you have decided to stick around! I respect your decisions and agree that none of us have perfect children. Koda looks great!

Debby@Just Breathe said...

I'm glad you staying around because I love reading you. I recently read an interesting post about how most people actually write about "fluff", the good times and recipes. The other things can be shared with your close friends in email comments. I don't lie on my blog, I just don't tell all but I do share my life with many of my closet blog friends. ((HUGS)) We never stop learning about God's love for us.

Joanne Noragon said...

You write for a reason, Betty. Tell us about Koda now.


Life is not an easy road. Whatever you write, I'm happy to read. Koda is so sweet.

Juli said...

It is hard... to blog and tell your stories... without hurting feelings. I know my husband reads, as does my step son, and am well aware that the kids will read someday. My Mom and aunts read as well, but I am careful in how I put things and what I write. I know someday it may bite me... but I'll cross that road when I have to.

This is the best choice for you, I just hope that you have other outlets, as sometimes the real life stuff can weigh on the soul. :)

Mevely317 said...

Hey Betty ... I'm sorry to have been AWOL of late; things have been rather chaotic. Nevertheless, I hope n' pray you're reassured by your own instincts. (Oftentimes, I've considered a "private" blog, simply in which to vent.)

I so enjoy your "authentic voice" and whatever YOU feel comfortable sharing ... I'll be there!

SweetMarie said...

Koda is such a sweetie! I will continue to visit your blog and continue to enjoy it. :)
I've been behind lately. Now we're visiting in NC, so I've fallen way behind. :)
Hope you're having a nice week. :)

Aneta said...

I love reading your blog and glad you are back at it. I totally understand your thoughts on what to share and what not to share. And I've always appreciated your honesty, because it's true, we all have heartache in our lives and because we love our kids, it does weigh heavy when times are tough. I totally understand your decision to keep things 'lighter', but I think you have my email, too if you ever need to or want to share a burden. Looking forward to more posts!

Marianne said...

I am so glad you're back, Betty, but I understand your thinking insofar as your blog. Sometimes writing what is "safe" is the price we pay to keep those we love happy. Although I might slip up now and then.

Or as Joe says, "every day."

xoxo Mar

Chatty Crone said...

Well I understand - but still know that God doesn't make mistakes and it is wonderful to be you.

Are you doing 2?


Danielle L Zecher said...

You can never have "too many" pictures of cute fur kids. I imagine Koda is happy to pose in exchange for cookies. :-)

Beatrice P. Boyd said...

Choosing what to post about in a blog is a very personal thing and some feel more comfortable than others. I can understand not wanting to post everything because of the comments of others, but at the same time, you should just follow your heart and you will find the right balance. None of us is perfect and a continuing work in progress.