Son and girlfriend broke up over the summer. It really doesn't matter who initiated the breakup, its a fascinating story and I might share it one day, but regardless, they are no longer together. This is the third time they broke up in their 3 year relationship, but I think this is the one that is going to take, in the sense that the other 2 breakups they agreed to "stay together" and try to work it out, whatever that meant. This time, there was no such agreement.
I think it is a good thing. Actually, I'm ecstatic about it. Its not that I didn't like her, she was a personable person, who like the most of us, had her faults. He has his faults, I'm sure more than hers.
They just weren't good together, if that makes sense.
I have prayed during his last two serious relationships God's best for the two of them. I only want God's best for son and the woman he is involved in and if neither one of them are God's best for each other, then I don't want the relationship.
I can only think that she was not God's best for him and he was not God's best for her.
Of course there are loose ends in breaking off such a relationship. Against my advice, he and her had gotten a cell phone plan together a few years back; not sure what is going to happen to that as they just renewed it this past January. That's for them to sort out.
Then there is the issue of her little girl, who was 6 months old when the two of them met. As they were one time contemplating marriage, she wanted him to be fully committed to not only her but to help raise her child(ren) and to be like a daddy to them to the extent of them calling him dad. It took him a bit of thinking to see if he wanted to be that committed, but did agree and took on what I consider an exemplary role of fathering, especially when he was not there all the time and she would often go against the discipline she wanted him to do. Things he worked on when they were together would be lost when they weren't together. But the wee one was used to calling him "daddy," which I knew would be a problem if they ever broke up. I feel for her because she doesn't understand this all and I wonder what she will think at her young age when another man is presented as daddy, but that is for her mom to work out and explain.
Then there is the issue, not much of a one, but she had been part of son's life for 3 years. We spent holidays together, other times together, was led to believe she possibly would be our daughter-in-law. Now she is "out of the picture" so to speak and we didn't get a chance to say goodbye, to wrap up loose ends, to have closure. I would have liked to at least say "good luck and take care of yourself."
I would like to hope son waits a bit before he starts dating again and prays for God's best for him. I know I'll be doing that and will just trust in God.......