a bench with a view

a bench with a view

Saturday, March 16, 2013

funk

I'm in a funk.  I know this too will pass, but right now I'm in a bit of a funk.  We seem to take one step forward and ten steps backward.  I know God is for me and not against me, I just have to trust and have faith in it.  I know this life is not easy; we aren't guaranteed an easy life.  I know that I whine a lot and even in what I don't think I have, I have so much more than the majority of people living in other countries.

Yet I'm still in a funk.  I'll be okay.  Yet today all I want to do is cry...... but that's okay because I think a cry can be a good thing.......

So here is what is going good. Son did get a car.  A 2012 Malibu; looks really nice.  Seventy one months of payment, just short of six years.  Heated seats and a sun roof.  And hopefully no car repairs for a bit.

Our church is in their two week hosting of the Interfaith Shelter to help some of the homeless.  Basically, we partner with an organization that helps homeless people have a place to live for about six months through the cold winter here, also helping them to find jobs and secure housing.  Different churches in the area work together, hosting a group of 12 for 2 weeks, providing food for them and overnight hosts.  Hubby and son were overnight hosts last year and already volunteered their time for this stint, sleeping at the facility we house them at this past Monday night. Sunday night our small group will provide dinner for the guests.  This always humbles me to work in situations like this and helps me to appreciate what I have.  I always walk away grateful.  I'm sure it will help me get out of the funk I'm in.

But right now, allow me just a minute or two or three or four of funk.......

and tell me something fun you might be doing this weekend..........

47 comments:

Kellie @ Delightfully Ludicrous said...

I always think that when you get in a funk you should just jump in with both feet. Wallow in it for a while. Then, once you start to feel it passing off, you'll find it easier to because you indulged.

Michelle said...

Think of something you love to do, and do it. I think when we are 'down', we just need to spend some time wallowing. I always do...but then I try to do something really fun, or think of something to do for someone who has a tougher life than me, and I usually come out of it. Sometimes, it's just the position of the moon, but that's not for another week and a half or so. For me, cleaning out a few cupboards or closets and donating to GW always give me a high. I know...I'm weird!

You are a beautiful person. Jesus loves you more than you can imagine. I know He has your picture pasted on the front of his refrigerator!

Linda said...

Was in small funk- so much tragic (evil) news in community last month.

Some more decluttering at my mom's. Offered to photograph jewelry that daughter's mil has crafted. Shoveling again! (Could go sledding off deck like 2 weekends ago.) A wee bit Irish, but no festivities planned.

Nice car, goodbye surprise repairs!

Your service through church and with the homeless will do wonders for recipients and you. Take care!

"I am with you always." Matthew 28:20

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Several of the churches in our town have partnered to do that here too. I saw in our church bulletin that there we asking for volunteers to be overnight hosts. It is a great idea. Glad your son got a car but ouch on the payments. Hope your funk is short lived and that you have a super Saturday!

John DeBellis said...

Funks come and go, laughing at them seems to work well for me.

Graciewilde said...

Yes, I am well acquainted with funks. Meet mine:
http://sebtown294.blogspot.com/2011/07/ms-melancholy.html

She visits and I give her some attention and then she gets bored and goes away.
I do what you do too and think of the things that are going well but I don't simply dismiss the funk. She gets mad at me when I do that.

I am mostly spending the weekend coaxing my arm to get better - which meansI am on the down low - reading , maybe a walk at one of the county parks . Heres hoping we see some of the sunshine!

The Brown Recluse said...

This weekend will find me being a nursemaid because Ole Boy is sick. It's going to be LOVELY here...70's and sunny.

So sorry about the funk. I should have already checked in with you...I'm ashamed that I'm not a better friend to you, faithful as you are to me!

If you need to cry, cry. Sometimes we need a good release. Like you said, this too shall pass.

Big Mark 243 said...

Sorry to hear about your funk... maybe the change of seasons will help to bring you out of it later this week...

So glad to hear about Son and his new car..! He is really growing up... I wonder about his relationship and where that has gone... I know it is not my business but still...

Hope you are feeling better soon..!

Jeanie said...

I'm sorry you are in a funk....I hope you come out of it soon. It happens to all of us.
My day will start soon with a baseball fundraiser breakfast for my oldest grandson's team and after that my granddaughter's soccer game.
Take care and give Koda a big hug.

Adam said...

a 12 mailbu sounds nice, I still got a 2000 century

Pat Hatt said...

Sounds like a great car to have and yeah no more crummy repairs which is good. Hope the funk goes kerplunk and is sunk and soon slammed away in some trunk.

Joanne Noragon said...

I don't do funks; they're not productive. Just my nature. But I can be angry with the best of them. Today half of us are spendng the day at a very important high school concert, one of us is at an all day meeting and two of us are going shopping and to lunch.

Barbara In Caneyhead said...

First, let me give you a big hug: ((((((((((Betty)))))))))))))
My fun thing for the weekend is that I get to keep my Baby Ruth today!!!
Barbara
Life & Faith in Caneyhead

Shelly said...

Your good news is terrific! I pray you come through your funk (and we've all been there) soon and with even more joy than ever before. Hugs!

jack69 said...

Ah, even in a funk, you're good!~ One never leaves your view from the bench, without a better view of life.
Love you girl and sending (((HUGS))) from this side of our world.

Betty W said...

Everyone is allowed a good cry now and then. ((HUGS)) I always feel better afterward.
Nothing interesting planned for this weekend, but I hope you get to take it easy.

Chatty Crone said...

You know what - we all get in funks - I was just in one the last couple of weeks - honest - and ma just coming out. I read someones post yesterday and the said Life is Delightful - and I have been concentrating on that.

It is okay.
Hugs,
sandie

Bijoux said...

I was in an awful PMS funk last weekend. Non-stop crying. I'm all better now!

Husband and I made salmon cakes last night with a roasted red pepper sauce. That was it for fun this weekend....back to doing taxes.

Dana said...

I always eat chocolate when I'm feeling like that. ;)

Thinking of you. *hugs*

Deanna said...

Why is it so easy to get into a funk, but not nearly as easy to get out? Great news that you son found a car.

The work you are doing with your church sounds very rewarding.

Fun this weekend. Well, the last 2 days temperatures soared into the 70's. Bliss! Had two of the grandkids yesterday and spent almost all day outside. Today is a whole different story. Cold temps and biting wind. Come on Spring!

Hope you are defunked very, very soon!

TARYTERRE said...

Let this mood run it's course and you'll be feeling different in a while. I saw a parade today for the holiday and it lifted my spirits.

Sherry Ellis said...

As my grandmother always said, "This too shall pass!"

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

The Interfaith Shelter program sounds awesome. Hope that gets you out of the funk.

Seriously Though said...

Truth is. I am in the same state. one step ahead and several steps back. A friend told me this is the same as dancing. you tube clips of corgi puppies sometimes makes me feel better.

Mevely317 said...

... and here, I can't stop crying. Earlier this week, our precious furball passed suddenly; and until today, I've found very LITTLE to care about. Yours is the first blog I've looked at in 4 days ... I so needed to see your sentences 4 and 5.
Sweet dreams and better tomorrows!

Funny in My Mind said...

I'm sorry about your funk! I totally understand and feel your pain. It does always seem to pass, at least for a while.
Very cool about your son's new car. Those are really nice vehicles!

Marianne said...

10 hours of chess has gotta make your life look happier, no? Kidding. I understand the funk. I KNOW the funk. I have lived/am living the funk. Chocolate helps. xoxo Mar

netablogs said...

Oh, I'm with you, I understand funks! I was in one this morning and I almost cancelled a planned craft morning with a few girlfriends. Then I got a text from one at JUST the right moment, asking me if I was coming. And I'm so glad i decided to go. Sometimes you just need to talk or vent. I hope your posting about it helped you a bit!

Hang in there! Sometimes our current problems do overwhelm and it's really hard! Hugs and prayers for better days!

SweetMarie said...

I'm so sorry you are in a funk. I always get outside. If I take a walk and listen to the birds I always end up with a smile. Or I take a drive and put the windows down, crank up some happy music and go down a pretty road. :) It all comes down to feeling, seeing and hearing what God has given us.:)
Hubby has to work tomorrow. At some point I will treat myself to a cup of coffee from Dunkin Donuts.

I was in the store on Friday and thought of you. This sweet lady starting talking to me about chocolate, we were both buying some. Then she found me later in the store to ask me what she should take to a dinner. lol! I started to laugh and I told her about you.:) She ended up taking flowers. :) Then she wanted to know what blogs were. :) Why is laughing with a stranger so great?!
I hope you have a wonderful Sunday! :)
Hugs,
Marie

Alessandra said...

I'm sending you a very powerful virtual de-funking medicine, take it three times a day, it'll begin to work right away....:)

Debby@Just Breathe said...

Sending you a big (((HUG)) and saying a prayer. Great news on the new car and how wonderful that you all give your time to help the homeless. You are such a blessing.

Robyn Burke said...

ah, the dreaded funk.... we all get them from time to time... sometimes just for a day, other times they linger like an unwanted house guest. hoping your funk flies away quickly! meanwhile.... allow yourself the rest you need, crank up some praise music and let a little pampering happen. Well, that is what I do and I allow myself to wallow in my funk for only so long and then it's up and at em! you go girl... your positive outlook on life inspires so many!

Robyn :) said...

I have times like this, too and I just go with it. Let myself feel crappy, maybe sleep a little more or just watch TV. I just remind myself it will pass and it does.

We went to the Bike show in Topeka yesterday and today we went to church back in our own building here in town :)

Hollie said...

I understand about the funk as I'm in one too! We will wallow awhile together, & then we will move on together!! We have so much to be thankful for indeed! Happy for your son and what a great thing for your church and members to be doing!!

Tami said...

There's nothing wrong with taking a while to feel what you're feeling - so to speak. Pretending you're not feeling the blues doesn't make them go away. I love your attitude and am glad you know that God is for you.

When you're feeling a little better and ready for a smile, I'll post some pictures of the supper I'm fixing this evening. Cooking 3 corned beef briskets and cabbage for a crowd and I have no clue what I'm doing. This could be a shining success or a total disaster.

Hope you're feeling better soon.

Tamera Brose said...

A funk must be going around. I'm waiting until I'm completely alone tomorrow and then I'm having a big old cry and get it out of my system. The more I think about it, the more guilty I feel for being in a funk and that puts in more of a funk etc. I'll send you a hug and keep you in my prayers.

Secret Agent Woman said...

Everyone needs time to be in a funk once in a while.

Let's see, sushi and snuggling the first half of the weekend, gardening the second half. No complaints from me!

Deals On Wheels said...

HUGS! I hope your funk turns to funky soon!

Gramma 2 Many said...

I hate funks. But don't we all? I agree with the cry, it does help sometimes.
Glad your son got a car that is dependable. That alone should relieve some of the worry.
I like the idea of hosting, we never know how good we really have it in our own lives until we see the trials of others.
I am thinking a nice long walk in the sunshine along the beach would be a great funk buster for you. Soak up some Vitamin D.
I better go to bed now, or I will be in a funk tomorrow. Not good :)

LynnMarie said...

YUP we all get into those moods and it's OK, for a while any way. Just remember, Satan is alive and well and living on the earth so your battle is with him. Since you are following God, Satan is extra mad at you. Hang in there and you will see brighter days soon. Hugs...

Kit said...

I think we all get days like that, but it is definitely healthy to have a good cry sometimes. I think focusing on the things that are going well also helps a lot. Hope you are feeling better now

Sharon said...

Oh Betty! I'm so sorry about your *funk* - but I totally get it. I've been there, as you well know - (by the way, thank you again for your cards and letters - they buoyed me more than you'll ever know in those first few months up the mountain).

Anyway, this weekend I actually have a grand adventure coming up! My husband and I are going to a Western festival in Arizona. There will be many TV and movie stars from the "old days," good food, and shopping! :)

Wanna come along?

GOD BLESS!

(p.s. You can have five or ten or twenty minutes of funk if you want...)

Manzanita said...

Betty,
I feel badly for you that you are in a funk, but I don't get it. Did you say why you are in a funk? I must have missed it. You seem to have so much, a nice husband and a son and you are involved in social interaction in your community. But some big thing must have happened to make you feel the way you do. I hope you are happy soon.
Love these moments because I have the feeling that worse days are ahead of us
My love to you, Manzanita

Blondee said...

Betty,

I'm sorry you haven't been feeling like yourself. I do understand what you mean and it can be very hard to find your way back out at times. I pray you are feeling better, and I know that when I'm feeling 'funky', something that helps pull me back to my life is to try something new. Even if it's just a new flavor of tea!

Life in a Small Town said...

Sometimes a good cry does us a world of good. Hang in there! {{hugs}}

Hollie said...

Thinking of you this morning!! I hope you are doing well

Seriously Though said...

this is really strange... I had a dream about you (or your blog that is) last night. I woke up and thought, "that was weird" Now it's even stranger that here you are on blogger again! yay!