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Monday, January 7, 2013

and the word of the year........

A lot of bloggers and others pick a word they will "concentrate" on in the new year. 

I started doing this back in 2010; that year the word was "trust".  I was going to trust God no matter what, even if it didn't make sense with what was going on.

In 2011, my word was "choice". I had the choice on how I handled situations; I could be grateful or whiny, humble or proud, you get the idea.

Last year's word was "seek". I was going to seek God with my whole heart, whole soul, whole mind.

This year I had a word that I really thought was the word of the year, but then last week one morning during my quiet time, another word popped into my mind which sort of goes with the first word I picked.

I'm doing a Bible study "Live a Praying Life" by Jennifer Kennedy Dean.  (thanks Kathy for telling me about it).

I'm learning a lot about prayer that I hadn't known before. I knew prayer was important and was how we communicate with God, but this has opened my eyes up more about it. 

So I thought that was the word of the year. Prayer. To really pray, to align my heart with God's will. 

But that morning as I was doing the study, I realized something.  A lot of the times when I pray, I want the answer in my agenda, my timing, my will, my way rather than what God's timing, way, or will would be.

And I'm not patient about waiting.

I have to say I'm not a patient person.  I think it even began before I was born. Of my mom's three children, I was the only one that arrived four days before my delivery date and not a week or two later like my sister and brother. 

When I started to really have a relationship with God, when I was in my 40s, I realized I was not very patient so I prayed to God for it.  I was frustrated with waiting for red lights, long waits at doctors' offices, slow lines at the grocery store, slow people walking in front of me, you get it.  I didn't like how I would be, getting so worked up over what now seems so trivial.

So I prayed for patience. You know the rest of that story.

God answered the prayer, but boy did I have a lot of times where I really had to exhibit self control while learning to be patient.  Catching every single red light while running late for something, waiting in line at the store with the slowest cashier ringing up an order with someone that had multiple coupons, questions, etc., but boy did I learn patience and I am much more patient these days.

Yet, I'm still impatient with God on prayers prayed that are yet answered.  Of a love one coming to know God, lately of a job for husband, or of healing for friends and family.

Yet I must remember God's timing is always worth waiting for and always comes at the right time, even when it seems impossible.  One thing I do know about God is he is faithful, he always keeps his promise and his word and he has never disappointed me.  So I must learn to be patient just like he taught me years before.  Not just patient on trivial matters like red lights, but on more eternal matters like salvation of a loved one and trust in him and his timing.  Or a job for hubby.......or more stability in my work.......

Its hard though.

But its my word of the year.  Patience.

So I give it to you Lord, your timing, your way, your will.  Help me to be patient and wait for you. You are always worth it. 

Romans 8:25 But if we hope for what we don't yet have, we wait for it patiently.

47 comments:

Azara said...

That's a great word, Betty! I am also a very impatient person. It causes a lot of unnecessary stress.

JOHN said...

I agree that's a great word.My word is JOY To let others see the Joy of the Lord in me.And not be so grouchy

Kelly said...

Ahh, Betty. :-)

Reading your posts always calms me. My word is, more often than not, a four-letter one. Especially with the way I was feeling Sunday night/early Monday morning!

But then I read your post, and now I feel better. You are a Godsend, Betty. Thank you.

Patience is a great word. :-)

Shelly said...

Wonderful! This was wonderful to read this morning, and has really set a great tone for my day. I love how the Lord, in His gentle way, gives us such truth and wisdom with one little word.

Bijoux said...

As a kid and young adult, I was probably the most impatient person out there. I've found that being married and having children has mellowed me and taught me patience, but I'm still a work in progress.

Tamera Brose said...

God give me patience and I want it NOW! That's me to a Tee. I can use your advice.

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

That is something we all have trouble with I think. It is very hard to wait. In a Bible study I did recently they said that if we are waiting on something then it is because in God's time it just isn't the right time for a particular thing to happen. Everything has a time and place and His timing is like ours for sure.

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

I meant that His timing is NOT like ours. Hope you have a great Monday!

Dana said...

This is wonderful! I'm also pretty impatient. Patience is a great word for the year. :)

I think I'll check out that Bible study. It sounds interesting. :)

Jeanie said...

You are setting a wonderful example with the effort you are making toward having more patience. From the previous comments it seems to be something that many of us struggle with and your thoughts about that struggle are well shared.

Funny in My Mind said...

Good choice!
I am still waiting for God to answer some of my prayers from last year. I promise I am quiet and listening.

JosephAlsarraf said...

I like that word. I sometimes have problems with patience too!
: )

jack69 said...

You are so good at putting the words down on paper(?), (I cannot get away from that word, while looking at a monitor.) You hit the nail on the head in many ways. That is neat, selecting a word, or being impressed by it, and keeping it up all year (and beyond).
The book I am finishing I have a man who learns about prayer.
Patience? Strange, I tell Sherry all the time, why would I be impatient? I have no schedule, so what it the guy in front is slow, or the cashier is slow, where am I off too?

Anyway, as always, a great read. I love the view from there!

Betty W said...

Oh, that word just speaks to me too!! I really really need to learn to be more patient (just ask my hubs hahaha).
I love the idea of getting a word for the year. I've never tried it, but will think about it.

banning brewd said...

that is rough! learning patience is great...but the tests are crazy hard...

i love it...and hope it goes really well for you this year :)

Life in a Small Town said...

Oh my. Patience is definitely a virtue I have trouble with!

Debby@Just Breathe said...

Great word Betty! Praying that you find patience in all things. xoxo

Chatty Crone said...

I did not know you were 40 when you developed your relationship to God. I would love to hear your story.

And I am with you girl - that is my hardest part of my faith is PATIENCE. I want it now! But I know it has to be that way.

sandie

Deanna said...

You've picked one of the most difficult words to live by imaginable. The best to you throughout this new year as you live the life of patience!

BelovedBomber said...

I love that word too! I always want a little of others words. Patience comes with frustrations and challenges sometimes since you have to be in situations that require patience. I am trusting God has something really great planned for you through this!

Sharon said...

Sigh - yes, Betty, a great word. And one that I also need to learn. I find that it is my anxiety that often makes me impatient with life, with unanswered prayers. I want things resolved, NOW, so I can stop feeling nervous or worried.

It's funny how the Lord works - often when we pray for one of His virtues to manifest in our lives, He doesn't just give us that virtue. Instead, He often offers a multitude of opportunities to exhibit that trait.

Pray for patience - undoubtedly our patience will be tried. I know you get *that story*!!

Great word.

GOD BLESS!

Karen said...

Ah, yes, the one word we've been warned not to pray for because of the answer. :-)

I've been thinking about the whole "word of the year" thing as several other bloggers have mentioned it...haven't hit on one yet for me....

Linda said...

Patience- endurance under difficult circumstance- great word! Thy will be done!!!

Lynda said...

You picked a difficult word - - but you will be a better person and more Christ-like at the end of the year. I know that's part of the plan. We need to remember you in prayer for this. Thanks for being so transparent to us with your commitments between you and God.

Robyn :) said...

I am a very impatient person, too. I use all my patience at my job at an elementary school lol. Patience is a good word to focus on. I should pick that next time :)

Kathy ... aka Nana said...

I could have written this myself. You'd think that after 61 years, I'd have mastered the art of patience ... unfortunately I'm still a work in progress.

I love the last couple of lines in today's post: So I give it to you Lord, your timing, your way, your will. Help me to be patient and wait for you. You are always worth it.

Romans 8:25 But if we hope for what we don't yet have, we wait for it patiently.

Intense Guy said...

I'm with Deanna, you picked a toughie and a challenge!

...but I suspect you will do quite well with it...

Kat said...

I can very much relate to this post. I have been trying to think of a word for myself too, but I haven't come up with one yet. I was thinking "Still". To just be still. Notice more. Talk less, listen more. Be calm. Don't get upset over little things. That can be hard for me as a mom of small kids, but I think I just need to be still. Hmm...

There was a line in a movie (surprisingly) that said, "When you ask God to make your braver, do you think He loads you with bravery, or does He give you opportunities to be brave? When you ask for patience, does He make you patient or does he give you opportunities to be brave?"
I thought about that often. I think it is true. Patience takes practice. As does all other positive qualities. Sounds to me as though you are getting plenty of practice. You'll get there. :)

Kat said...

Oops. "...or does he give you opportunities to be patient". Sorry about that.

Linda :) said...

All last year when I would realize something wasn't going right at the moment: something electronic not working or a red light when in a hurry... I would stop and say, "in God's time, not mine"... and the other day I was talking to a friend at work about prayer and she said she always ends her prayers "God's will be done" and that her prayers always get answered... and I don't remember if if was her or something I read but it said that God already has a plan for everything but that by prayer we can change his mind to our way if he feels like it...
Hubby got a letter from unemployment yesterday stating that he won't be getting another extension and then it proceeded to say how much money was left... so we're thinking that it means after this extension is done... which we know would come and besides we don't want to be on unemployment, we want a job of any means... so I am attempting to keep my positive outlook today and not let it get me down as I am on vacation and we have already had several good things happen this year and God has taken care of us always so he will continue to now...
and yes, I use and too much, lol...
Have a Blessed Day!!! :)

Mevely317 said...

Sorry for showing up late, Betty! Last night I was torn between the BCS game and The Bachelor.

I think your word choice is so fitting! ... and how lovely it accompanies prayer. I think this is something we all struggle with in our day-to-day comings and goings.

Sometimes I wonder if God is up there chuckling at us, trying our best to look ahead and figure out the answer.




Living Life said...

I think I pray for patience daily, especially having two teen girls. It is hard to come by these days.

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Lynn Proctor said...

wow--you are a brave woman betty :)

Brenda Youngerman said...

Patience is an acquired taste. I also believe as we get older we get more patient because we realize the futility of impatience.

I hope this year brings everything you are patiently praying for :)

LynnMarie said...

That is a great word! I pray you find all the patience you need. I, for one am afraid to pray for it, I know how God developes it! My word is "Joy" to find joy no matter what.

Shannon Lawrence said...

Patience is a good word and a hard one to adopt if it doesn't come naturally to you. I work on it all the time.

Shannon at The Warrior Muse

Patrick said...

"a bench for waiting patiently" - I like it!

Caregvingly Yours, Patrick

Rita said...

Great word, Betty! I haven't ever chosen a word for the year, maybe I should think about it. Looks like a great idea. :)

MOV said...

My word was "spontanaity." I planned it very very carefully.

I think seek might be better. Or patience. Hmmmmmm.

best,
MOV :)

Jen Forbes said...


Good word Betty, it really fits you and where you are in your life. I have my "word" post partly written just can't decide on my word...

Martha said...

Definitely a good word for the year Betty. I'll have to give this idea some thought. Right at this moment my thought was the word "change" but borrowing your word "choice" from 2011 might be an even better option for where I am in my life.

Jimmy said...

Excellent word Betty, I too have become more patient as I have gotten older although I would never say I was ever an extremely impatient person, my wife on the other hand has her picture in the dictionary by the word impatient Ha Ha

You are so right in that we should be patient and leave it to the Lord, trivial things do not matter and not dwelling on those things will in fact make us more patient people.

SweetMarie said...

Love it! I know I've been MIA a lot, but I can't believe I missed this post for so long! I hope all is well with you and your family. :)
Happy days to you my friend,
Marie

Deals On Wheels said...

Love it! I guess my word would be: HEALTH. But hopefully that is only temporary! ;P

The Brown Recluse said...

Waiting. Isn't that the hardest thing to do? I remember years ago my dad talking about how he'd asked God to teach him patience, and suddenly found himself in the most annoying situations...the slowest drivers, the longest red lights, etc. I don't believe I have ever asked God to teach me patience. lol

I have a Dutch Sheets book on intercessory prayer, which I have read twice...and need to read again. I sometimes, even after much prayer, think I still don't know how to pray.