I'm invited to a baby shower next month for a couple from church. This couple has a lot "against" them (except God, both believers). Without giving up too much of their privacy, one is sober from an addiction, then an unexpected pregnancy, planning to get married before the baby was born, but the baby came nine weeks early (but doing well).
I love baby showers (well except when I was going through infertility stuff and baby showers were hard....) but I do love baby showers. I like the silly games played at them. Son and a friend went to the friend's sister's baby shower a few years back and the game where they try to measure with toilet paper how big the mama to be's stomach, son won the game. He just stuck out his stomach and used that as a measurement and it was the closest. He has since dropped a bit of weight.
I digress......but I do that a lot.
In the invitation that came for this shower, there was a piece of paper for us to write down a special note for the family; either a prayer, poem, best parenting advice, whatever. They are going to put all the papers into the baby's book for years to come.
I thought about this for a bit. I haven't written it yet, but I think I would say something like this:
Pray daily for your child, for their safety, obviously, but that they would come to know Jesus earlier than later in their life and that they would be passionate for him, that they would be used mightily to further his kingdom. Pray daily for your child's future spouse. Yes, they are young and still in diapers and dating and marriage are years away, but pray that their future spouse will be a person also deeply in love with Jesus (I had a friend who did this when both their kids were young and both married awesome spouses who knew Jesus as their Lord and Savior).
Treasure each day; even the hard ones. Don't rush through the days or the seasons of your child's life. Don't rush for them to sleep through the night, to walk, to talk, to be in school because the time goes by so incredibly fast anyway. Just enjoy each and every day, even the bad ones.
Take time for yourself as a couple. It is okay to go and leave the little one in loving capable hands (of which there are abundance of grandparents and aunts). They will do just fine without you and you need that time to reconnect with each other.
Above all else, trust God with your whole heart and give them to him completely. After all, he was the one that knitted them together and counted their hair. He does know what is best all the time.
What one thing would you say to new parents?