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Friday, June 8, 2012

I'm on strike

Usually I'm a pretty compliant person, follow rules, try to get along with people; try not to rock the boat so to speak, try to help out with this and that, a team player.

But lately, I've been on strike about a few things.

Overtime and work. Now mind you, this is overtime in addition to the overtime we are mandatorily mandated to do (I kind of like that phrase, mandatorily mandated). (Unfortunately, I don't think manditorily is a real word, it didn't pass spell check, but I still like it :) Since February 24th, more than a fourth of the year, but who is counting, we have been manditorily mandated (yes I think I'll use that phrase a few more times in this post) to work an additional hour of overtime on every day we are regularly scheduled to work. Supposedly they are working on hiring additional people to fill in the gaps of our schedules, but it takes time to recruit and to train; hmmmmmmmm over three months later........how much more time do we need to train and recruit? I know I work in an intricate field, but still..... But I digress, as usual. In addition to the manditorily mandated overtime, there are some days that they want us to work more overtime if we can. I used to try to comply and help out since I know it is important to get the reports out, but lately after working 9-hour days, enough is enough. So a few weeks ago I arbitrarily decided no more overtime except for the manditorily mandated. I realized I was very tired from working over 50-hour weeks week after week after week. So I'm on strike.

I'm also on strike in regard to the clutter around the house. For those new to my blog, I'll sum it up in two sentences. January 2011 we moved into hubby's parents' house that was full of a lot of JUNK that we have been trying to clear out for the past 18 months. Oh, I did it in one sentence; I'm pretty proud of myself for that. Anyway, lately I'm on strike about trying to clear it out. Its technically not my stuff since it was hubby's parents' stuff, their house, and technically his house as he inherited it only in his name (technicality for tax purposes, to get it changed into both our names he would lose a good tax status that he has; don't ask me what happens if he dies before me and we are still living at this home; I think it will go into probate; I'm thinking I will probably walk around from it all then......). Anyway, I've been living with the clutter for over a year and I'm done with it. If hubby wants to deal with it and he does work on it slowly and surely, so be it, but I'm done with estate sales, trying to decide what to keep, what to give away, etc. I somehow think both hubby and his brother should be sharing equal responsibility in disposing of things since both shared in distribution of assets, but it seems to be one-sided on hubby's part in the disposing. He has trouble deciding what to get rid of, what to save and feels bad getting rid of things like old papers, etc., that really have no purpose these days. If he passes before me, it will be easy for me......dump it all and move on, but I don't have that say right now. So I'm on strike.

And then there's house cleaning. Used to clean the house faithfully weekly before we moved here. Did it pretty much on my own as a labor of love since hubby at the time had a stressful job and I figured if I got it done when I had the chance, we had more of a chance to spend time together and he could have more of a rest. Now the roles are reversed; he works about 10 hours a week; me 40 plus. He helps out with a load of laundry here and there and cooks every night we have dinner together, but has been hit and miss (mostly miss) on the house cleaning. Dust bunnies are multiplying here amongst other things. But I have no motivation to clean. This house really doesn't seem like my house; I'm having trouble feeling like it is "home" so I have no motivation to keep it clean. So I'm on strike.

However, I'm not on strike about giving Koda treats or blogging :)

And I suppose one day, like the majority of strikes, this one will get settled and I'll get off of the picket line and back to work and back to clutter and back to cleaning, but I don't see that happening any time soon.

What about you, anything you might want to be on strike about? Plenty of room on my picket line :)

40 comments:

Marianne said...

I'm on strike against green vegetables. I'm die-hard. 38 years and counting.

Debbie V. said...

My husband and I have also switched roles the last couple of years. For us to make it through to retirement age - it is our only choice. He works part time - more like 25 hours a week. When he was unemployed he cooked dinner almost every night. Now he cooks about once a week. We're both tired and it seems like the house work and yard work do not get done. He has hired a neighbor to mow for a reasonable price. Anyway, it's just part of the whole getting closer to retirement phase.

Shelly said...

I hear ya on clutter- I hate it. I'm on strike against bad drivers, and our area seems to be full of them. Ugh.

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

No wonder you want to go on strike...with work hours like that for so long I'd be tired out too. When we are tired out nothing seems to go right no matter how we try. Enjoy your strike, take it easy and forget about it all for a while. Since I retired, I can't complain about much of anything and do practically what I want so no strikes here at my house. Hope your Friday is a fantastic one!

MorningAJ said...

I'm with Shelly on this one. Bad drivers. Particularly the truck driver who pulled out of a side road right in front of me this morning - then parked up!

MorningAJ said...

Oh yeah - I forgot. Yes it is a word. http://www.wordreference.com/definition/mandatorily

Tamera Brose said...

I don't blame you for being on strike. BTW I know a guy who knows a guy who know how to make a house fire look like an accident. Make sure you have good insurance and let me know when you're ready. Just kidding, mostly.

Dana said...

*hugs*

I'm on strike against stress. I've got too much of it, and I've had it. Today I'm not going to let anything bother me, and I'm not going to worry about my mile-long to-do list. It's a one-day strike in the interest of my peace of mind. Yay! :)

jack69 said...

LOL...manditorily mandated.... I like it too Betty. Okay you have one guy on the picket line with you in spirit, of course!

I think a man must have a vision, an epiphany, before he realizes the weight on his lover. I have not been perfect, but once I realized without her being by my side, following me around the world, moving on a whim, I WANTED TO DO ANY AND EVERYTHING TO MAKE HE LIFE BETTER.
Of course lately, she with the broken wing, has a rough time letting me do most of the work around here. I joke about her being a bad patient, but she ain't.

We all like to be appreciated for what we contribute, sometimes it takes too much time for the hubby to SEE.

I hope the strike accomplishes something in ALL AREAS!!!

Sending love from here.

Parsley said...

I understand about the clutter issues. Going through parent's stuff is not easy. Wish there was some easy way of figuring out what to do with stuff quickly.

TARYTERRE said...

That is alot of overtime. I think you are right to put your foot down. Every single room our our house is overwhelmed with clutter. Nobody helps me tackle it, but they keep adding to the mess. I think I will follow your lead and go on STRIKE too. Our house is filed with my husband's parents stuff too. And his brother did not help at all, so I hear you. ENJOY your free time, what little you have. Take care.

Missie said...

I hate clutter myself!

Jeanie said...

You sound like you are a lot overworked and maybe a little underappreciated. I think a strike is a good idea and I hope it brings some positive results.
Right now I'm ready to go on strike against stress at work, but I just have a few more weeks to deal with it.

Patrick said...

I have this theory that the Internet age has actually increased clutter. We all spend too much time on line in a virtual world that looks however we want it to and turns on and off with a click, almost like living in an old fashioned TV sitcom. Whenever my PC is in the shop for repair or maintenance soooo much more gets done around the house and yard. :)

Caregivingly Yours, Patrick

Rita said...

You do sound overworked and underappreciated (which my spell check claims is not a word, either). If I could, I would go on a pain strike. I have days I am so very sick of it.

Imagine me over here carrying a strike sign with you! You go, Girl! :)

Tami said...

At least you've got your priorities straight - no strike against dogs or blogging. I've been on strike from housework for years! Hasn't killed anyone yet. :)

Hope things slow down for you soon!

Linda B. said...

I nominate you for the "above and beyond" award, both work and home category.

Hope your strike demands are met! Enjoy your weekend anyway!

P.S. I'd recommend a will. We've got one but it needs updating.

Danielle L Zecher said...

I hope your strike is successful. I went on a clutter strike a couple of years ago. My husband is now a recovering packrat, but at the time he kept EVERYTHING. He does a lot better now, and we're both a lot happier.

It sounds like your employer may be doing what so many are now and just expecting people to do more work in less time (probably without appropriate raises) since they can blame not hiring people on the economy rather than their own greed and inability to run things properly. I REALLY hope karma does a number on all of them. I guess that sounds a little bitter, but consider me part of that strike!

Funny in My Mind said...

Wow, I like how they call it overtime but it is really them just refusing to hire some else.
It really doesn't sound fair for you!
I went on strike a while back with the housework and laundry and nobody cared so I caught back up.

I will say I am not shampooing the carpets again. We can rip them up and put down wood flooring (probably ourselves) but I refuse to drag that shampoo machine out again.
My husband's office is a terrible mess of papers that need to be filed, bills that need to be paid, stuff he collects (small model cars) and who knows what else. I told him a while back I would help him with the clutter but he had to clean it first. He did a half ass job and I never did my part. Now he has a folding screen in front of the doorway to block the mess but I know it is there. I am going to tackle the cluttered basement this month. It used to be so clean but somehow, when the big one moved back home (3 times) he used it to store stuff he won't throw away. I have no problem throwing stuff away.

Lynn Proctor said...

mmmm i feel for you especially on the clutter part---i hate clutter, but live with some of it--not due to an inherited amount--but wait, that trait is inherited i think--but hope yours get better soon and i am a stay at home mom and homeschool teacher, but still have the bunnies :(

JosephAlsarraf said...

LOL! I like to make up words too! You should send that Mandatorily to Webster and see what they think.

I've been on strike too before. If you know I usually do the dishes for the house and since I don't like to do them, I like to listen to my mp3 player so that I can be entertained. One day my mp3 player broke and I went on strike!

Not going to clean the dishes until I get a new mp3 player, no way!!!!
: )

Toriz said...

Good luck with your strikes!

I just want to be on strike in general; just want to curl up in my bed and stay there without being bugged!

gracies tough journey said...

Best of luck on your strike. I certainly can understand it. I have to say though, I certainly had a good laugh on your friends comments, some are so funny!

banning brewd said...

i wish i could go on strike from changing diapers...and breaking up bickering kiddos. i'm so glad that you are not on strike from the blog...i really enjoy reading :)

Kelly said...

I always say I'm going on strike, but I never follow through. One of these days, though...? Especially with laundry. I HATE laundry, and in this house, it's NEVER totally done. I wash, I dry, I fold, I sort, I basket...all I want is for those who are able (like the husband, the 12-yo, and the 13-yo, especially) to retrieve, collect, and put away. Is that asking too much? Apparently, in this house, yes...yes, it is.

Argh!

mare ball said...

I would love to go on strike from cooking. So tired of it. I don't mind laundry, or even cleaning as much as cooking. With clean up, it's so much work. I can understand being fed up about work. "Funny" is right in that they seem to be just trying to avoid hiring new people. I hope you get a break soon...and that your "strike" works!

Debby@Just Breathe said...

I think your decisions for striking are within reason.
You go girl! Well I have been lucky enough to have my daughter clean house for me for 3 years now. Now she has a full time job and doesn't have the time. I am not happy about cleaning the house.
It's too much for me! Yes I think your husband and his brother should be doing all the work.

SweetMarie said...

Hubby cooks most of the time, so I'm good there. I'm definitely on strike against bad drivers in Orlando! Also the clutter is starting to get to me. The older my son is the bigger the toys, like dirt bikes and ping pong tables and even his clothes that he seems to have everywhere!:)
Have a great weekend!

Blondee said...

Is he having trouble cleaning out the junk because he's depressed/ sad in doing it? If so, here is a suggestion that worked in our family...pick a weekend when he and the brother can both be there. Set the ground rules that they have 48 hours to decide what stays and what goes. Monday morning what is goind, GOES. Whether it be to charity, listed online on a Fb garage sale site (love those...so much easier than a real sale!) or given to other relatives, etc. If they do not sort and clean, if they do not make definite decisions, then have one of those storage PODS dropped in the driveway and hire them to move all the clutter into the POD and have hubby and brother split the bill of having their junk in storage until they want to sort it out.

Memories and lovely and grief is hard, but it's no reason to live like a hoarder...and it only adds stress to the lives of those who don't want to live like that.

I'm sorry to hear you are so bogged down with work. My husband has the same problem with his work. Usually 9 months a year he has mandated overtime. This week alone he will have 20 hours overtime...and we aren't even in the busy season yet.

And yes! Snacks during tests are a must here. My daughter has OCD and some nervous and distracting tics, if she's eating or chewing on something, it takes her focus off her tics. :)

Stephanie said...

It really sounds like you've been overwhelmed. I don't blame you for going on strike! As for the clutter...honestly, I'd forget about estate sales. I know it's hard to "throw away" money...but for the peace of mind, I'd just donate it all. Estate sales are just too much work.

Chatty Crone said...

Betty - these are great and I hope you follow thru. Did you tell your husband? It sounds like you have made up your mind and have empowered yourself.

I have to tell you - I agree with you trying to let go - Life can change in a moment of time - and the house and the job will be there long after - have some fun in life.

Love, sandie

notes4neta said...

Wow, you have a lot on your plate right now. Hope the strike settles things and makes it better for you!
I would like to go on strike against cooking. It takes so much energy to cook interesting, healthy, tasty meals day in and day out. Sometimes I wish I could snap my fingers and presto! But I tried that and it didn't work! ;)
I would like to go on strike against rainy weather. We have had such cool, wet weather for the last while, I'm not even sure it's really June anymore! I am also considering going on strike against trying to stay healthy.. (expensive) vitamin regimens, exercise, keeping a positive perspective. But then I don't like the alternative, so I'll keep at it! And lastly, cleaning the man bathroom. I definitely want to go on strike against that! ;)

Karen Greenberg said...

I've pretty much gone on strike against housework. My kids are old enough to start pitching in, and since it's summer they are bored anyway. It's a perfect time for them to learn to clean up after themselves and help with the household chores since my husband and I both work. They are not too happy about it, but they get it done so they can have their computer time.

Caroline said...

I should be on strike too. I have been helping at school a bunch & so the house has been let go. As for clutter I can't stand it but I have kids so its something I have learned to deal with. At nine at night it usually gets halfway done.
Life is too short so take time to enjoy my thoughts. :)

BelovedBomber said...

I love it! I have made jokes around here about going on strike after we watched a movie where a bunch of moms went out on strike. Let me know the outcome...maybe I should try it for real :)I think setting boundaries it great! Good for you. Glad you still are blogging!

Bica said...

I don't blame you for being tired of the mandatory overtime. I would be sooo crabby and hard to live with, if I was forced to work overtime. I will walk your picket line with you, in support of you and all your co-workers who have had to work OT for so long.

Hollie said...

Everyone is entitled to a strike from time to time. I'm about ready to hit the picket line with ya!!

Living Life said...

Everybody deserves a break every now and then whether it be from work, cleaning or whatever, so don't feel bad. You have every right to be on strike! You've earned it!

Fiona Biedermann said...

Wow sounds like you need to be on strike with a workload like that.
At least if the dog is happy and you're still blogging then the important things are being taken care of.
Hope things lighten up real soon for you.

Deanna said...

I hope they pay you time and a half or double for your mandatoryily mandated overtime. I'd be on strike too.

After cleaning out two sets of parent's houses, I feel your pain. With Jim's mom's house, it was awful. At one point the basement had been flooded and she did nothing with it other than Jim cleaned out the water and she closed the door. We ended up backing a dump truck to the door and hauling it all out. We then took inventory. Gave the list to brothers and sister and let them take turns choosing. Then we gave the list to our children and let them take turns choosing. Anything not chosen was sold or given to charity. Done!

With my parent's stuff it was the same except we didn't need a dump truck!

Good luck with your strikes. Hope they work.